Hello to you. How are you today? I am doing better than I was doing this morning. Sometimes mornings are hard for me. I have been trying to sleep without a sleep aid and so far have been kind of successful.
Something that seems to help me with anxiety the most lately, and I realize I have mentioned it before, is the combined activity of walking and talking at the same time . My family gives me a call and I take them on a walk with me, “Hello? Wait a minute, let me get on my shoes.” So my neighbors have become accustomed to seeing me out with my cell phone while I walk. The magic number for time is about 40 minutes or less. Depending on how hot it is, sometimes it can just be a walk around the block but it helps.
“walk and talk” in the English Ordinal system equals 110
“purpose” in the English Ordinal system equals 110
Hello to you. I haven’t written in a few days. I have been hesitant to write because I am trying to keep my anxiety under control. Also I have been sharing my posts on Facebook and I am now trying to stay off of there! Even my transition care manager that called me today said he’s been taking time off of Facebook right now.
Tomorrow I have a phone call with my doctor so I can let him know everything that has been going on in the anxiety department and hopefully he will have something he can prescribe for me to take as needed to help me. I don’t want to be on anti-anxiety meds forever just something mild to help take the edge off of what I’m going through right now. Something else that has been working is doing a walk and talk with family on the cell phone. The combination of walking and talking seems to help.
My poor family that has been trying to hold my hand through this is all long distance right now. They are doing their best to help me. Their phone calls really help – they usually end up going on a walk with me!
Hello. I haven’t written in a couple of days. I was fortunate this weekend and my neighbors decided to have a garage sale. I was able to sell several things and they gave me the money for it Now we don’t have to worry about the king mattress being at the curb or a couple other things. It was so nice of them to allow me to see some things in their sale. My husband and his dad came by on Saturday to get some the last of his things out of the house. I was happy to see them and so was Link but sad for the reason. Link howled like crazy again after they left. The noises Link was making is what I was feeling but not expressing inside. I did manage to get him calmed down after a walk and a Skype session with my cousins wife which soothed us both.
Sometimes you just need a friend!
I can feel myself resisting what is happening with this separation/pending divorce/home sale/moving process even though I’m doing the next right things. I have been fighting with myself inside a lot. All of this is provoking a lot of anxiety. I’m starting to wonder if I don’t need to talk to my doctor about an anti-anxiety as needed medication. I don’t want to be one of those people who pops pills for everything but I think I may need to about this. When I start t feel those feelings I don’t want to do anything but go crawl into bed!
I wish I could be like Link express myself and move on and not ruminate – just grab one of my toys and play and not be trapped in emotions!
The toy I do grab that helps some is my laptop it’s a DELL Inspiron 15 3000. The only problem is it gets so hot when I want to play video games on it. Very disappointing. So I mainly can use it for chatting and stuff like this. I should have know better.
As always thank you for stopping by and reading. I appreciate your thoughts and prayers.
Hello to you. How are you this morning? Well Link and I have had our walk and I forced myself to eat some breakfast sitting at the table. I have been having trouble sitting still for meals since I got home from the hospital. Just another anxiety provoking thing I’m working through. Last night before bed I was having to keep my mind from teleporting all over the place, “stay with Link” and “stay here Jackie” are phrases I’m having to use a lot. So many parts of my life provoke a teleport of my mind and heart to another time.
Speaking of another time….my stuff is a big time trigger right now.
With things going the way they are, I am going to be moving. We are having discussions with what is the best way to transport my stuff from here to Idaho. I think we have narrowed it down to a Uhaul truck. The quote for the POD was $3800 with almost $300 for rent a month. A lot of the deliberation about this has been whether or not all the stuff I’ve decided to keep will fit in one device or another and not cost us a fortune! I’ve already gotten rid of so much and there is still a couple things left. I hate the thought of putting our King size bed at the curb!
This morning I was thinking about the movies my husband and I had collected and my journals. He is going to try and sell most of the movies. The journals I think are going to be transported one more time but there is a part of me that is almost ready to let them go. I have no intention of going back through them and I don’t expect anybody else is going to want to either. Unlike movies though, you can’t just go get another copy of a journal. With movies you can also find another way to watch and or acquire another copy. We’ll see what happens! I have some more time to think about it.
Anyhew that’s where we are at in our process right now. I’m trying to stay in the present moment. I am trying to remain grateful for what and who I have.
Hello to you. How are you today? This morning I am still processing what happened yesterday. I went out and spent a few hours with husband and his family for Memorial Day. Kyle and I had the talk I been dreading for us to have but it was necessary. Spot sat between us. The past four years have just proven to be more than Kyle can take. He is also trying to progress in a career where he is going to be gone a lot. I may not be financially high maintenance but emotionally I can be. I’m kind of like a dog with separation anxiety to be honest. I don’t do well being by myself too long. So he’s doing what is best for himself and ultimately I think this will be good for me too I just can’t see it yet. I think things are going to be alright. With everything that has happened between us the past few years, our friendship remains intact and that means the world to me! I got to spend time with Spot too and she seemed much more relaxed than I’ve seen her in a long time which is a good thing.
At about 3 pm Tim played TAPS. It reminded me of when we had all gone to Arlington National Cemetery and he and his family played.
We played a few rounds of Yahtzee and of course I didn’t win! It was fun to spend some time together like that. I am blessed to have such understanding people as family.
How are you today? I’m doing pretty good. It’s a wet Memorial Day. They say it’s going to be like this all day. I guess it’s a fitting thing that it be raining on this somber holiday. In the past couple of years, my husband and honored this holiday by going to our local cemetery. Instead of doing that this year, I will be going to spend some time with my husband, his family and of course Spotty. Last night before bed I was imagining saying hello to her and being so excited!
Memorial Day” in the English Ordinal system equals 116
“a remembrance” in the English Ordinal system equals 98
“together” in the English Ordinal system equals 98
Remembering, like I mentioned in my post yesterday, is a mixed thing. It can be a helpful skill and as my husband used to day about his having a great memory, it can be a curse. I am struggling with the curse part right now. When I remember things it is such a visceral experience that it hurts. In our current times I’m sure I’m not alone. On this day I can guess there are many who wish they didn’t have to remember what today is about! My heart goes out to anyone reading this that can relate to that.
Goals for today:
Today I will rest in gratitude that I am here and yet able to remember. Today I will give thanks for what and who I have in my life. Today I will have hope that today and the tomorrows yet to come will be filled with great new memories.
Hello to. How are you doing today? I’m up and got Link out on the morning drag. When you walk Link it’s not always you walking him but him having a pretty good idea of what the walk is about. He definitely has his own agenda! Boy dog stuff – “I MUST pee here and I MUST leave a dribble on this particular blade of grass.” Since he’s been back home he’s also been barking in the house a lot more than I remember him doing before. He and Spot used to bark, but not as much as he has been doing lately. He doesn’t have Daddy to keep him line!
Lately I have been coping with anxiety that is associated with memories. So much of my life is filled with my husband that with us being separated like we are, I have been having trouble. Everything I do has a memory associated with him and that evokes a feeling of anxiety and longing in me, Every part of the day from eating breakfast, going for the morning walk, playing a video game we used to play and even taking a shower at night are all filled with memories…..ghosts of our shared past. He was and in my mind and heart still is, my everything. I am having to make new patterns and I can feel myself resisting doing that. I don’t want to figure out how to live my life without the man I love!
My family has been reminding me that I have to stay in the now and quit going backwards to avoid those anxious feelings and it’s hard for me right now! I am sure God has a plan in all this but some of it sure seems to hurt!
I baked cupcakes yesterday to take out to him and the family for Memorial Day. I had packed up a bunch of my kitchen stuff so it was nice to get it back out for that – to do something normal. Hopefully the weather is going to cooperate. They were talking about us getting potentially heavy rain tomorrow…..I hope not. I have been looking forward to this for so long! I miss my husband, Spot and most definitely seeing tangible family.
Not much else to write. I’m trying to stay in the habit of writing as a part of my therapy and coping strategies.
Hello to you. How are you doing today? It’s a new day. I started my day today trying to coax Link to go outside and do his business after the rains we had last night. I’m probably going to have to take him for a walk to do it.
I began my day with sending my husband a good morning text and a picture of our “son” being cute as he resists me. Even though we are not together right now, in my heart we are. Link is not just a dog but a Link to my husband and to Link’s family of origin. No matter how far apart we are inside or out.
What dogs teach us is every morning is a good morning. Every moment is precious.
I found another way to communicate with people and that is through a an computer program called Discord (https://discord.com/). My husband uses it to communicate with his gaming friends or he did. I play an MMORPG Rift from time to time and joined a guild that has a Discord Channel. They are really nice people and there are a couple ladies that use it that are my age. They aren’t on all the time, but when they are it’s really nice to have people to talk to about something besides my problems. I’m just trying to find various ways to help fill the void for daily human contact and communication I’m living in right now.
I’m grateful to my family and friends that have been sending texts almost daily. It’s amazing how just a few words on the phone can help make a day start off right! If anything all of what I’m going through has made communicating with people outside of the home even more important.
Good morning. Well Link and I had our walk, eaten breakfast and now some laundry. I am grateful to be able to do those things after looking at the headlines for Michigan this morning – severe flooding.
I didn’t write yesterday. My husband had a journal for a little while when he was welding and he said it was a bit like may be a diary of a blacksmith back in the day, “Today, I made a sword.” The next day, “Today, I made a sword and a hammer.” It gets real dull after awhile. I honestly don’t have a lot to write about right now and feel a little dull!
I am still wrestling with myself about whether or not to keep my handwritten journals, I was talking with someone in the health chat program I’ve been using lately and they brought up a good point. Feelings come and go but once I get rid of the journals that’s it, they will be gone. There are memories from my current marriage like playing scrabble with my husbands Grandma before she died. I am having a real hard time thinking about tossing away stuff like that.
I spoke with my Care manager yesterday about my anxiety issues lately. He had a lot of the same ideas my cousins wife Tawna, who has a Masters in Psychology, had to offer. He suggested breathing exercises, yoga stretches, making a safe place for being in and visualizations. He suggested church groups, prayer, meditation and reaching out like I have been doing with family, friends and chats. He is calling me once a week now. It’s helpful to have a professional checking in and being able to talk to him.
Other than that, I am missing affection. Between social distancing and my husband and I being separated it is hard. I am grateful to have Link as he likes to cuddle and is affectionate. We are planning on getting together for Memorial Day (25th). I hope when I see him and his family there will be hugs even if we have to wear masks!
Hello to you. How are you doing today? I’m doing better now that Link and I had our walk and then I made myself some breakfast! I know, simple, normal things but it’s those little things that help me move forward. The past couple of days have been a moment to moment kind of thing. I will be feeling ok and then if I’m not careful I will start ruminating on things from the past or memories and just get all anxious inside.
I am realizing that I have always been this person my husband has left me alone with. The difference before was I had work, running, playing video games or something else to help get rid of it. So this time alone is definitely getting me reacquainted with a self I used to be and realizing what used to work isn’t going to work this time!
As I’ve said before, I do believe God has a plan for me and I’m pretty sure what I’m going through is part of it. Some times only tough love gets what needs to be done accomplished.
From the people I’ve been talking to lately, a lot of anxiety going around so I’m definitely not alone. We all just have something different we are going through, but we are definitely not alone. With all this social distancing I find myself missing hugs and kisses a lot. I’ve been sending and receiving a lot of virtual hugs lol – just not quite the same as real ones!
Anyhew – hope this finds you well and loved.
“hugs and kisses” in the English Ordinal system equals 156/128/141/128……….