23 June 2018 Music Makes Time Travelers Of Us All (James Corden and Paul McCartney), Sewing and Drawings

Hello to you.  How are you doing in your where and when as you visit here?  I hope you are well.  We are still drying our happy tears and glowing a bit from watching this video of James Corden and Paul McCartney carpooling down memory lane in song:

Paul McCartney Carpool Karaoke

Published on Jun 21, 2018

James Corden heads to Liverpool for a special day with Paul McCartney spent exploring the city of Paul’s youth, visiting his childhood home where he wrote music with John Lennon, performing songs in a local pub and of course driving around singing a few of Paul’s biggest hits. Pre-order Paul McCartney’s new album Egypt Station and download his two new songs “Come On To Me” and “I Don’t Know” here: https://paulmccartney.lnk.to/EgyptSta… – Watch The Late Late Show with James Corden’s episodes from London only on Sky One at 10pm.

Just like looking at a photograph, singing and or hearing a song can propel us through our time on this earth.  Music makes time travelers of all of us.  Watching this made my heart ache a bit because there aren’t very many like Paul left here.  Watching this also made me incredibly grateful we have songs of love, hope and unity to turn to and some of the folks who made them yet here to sing them with us!   Thank you for doing this James and Paul!

https://musicandmemory.org/ – great organization that uses music to help people regain some of what Alzheimer’s and dementia makes them lose.

I thought it was beautiful that the inspiration for this song came from Paul’s having a visit from his deceased mother in a dream.

22 June 2018 – drawing I did when it had finally cooled down last night!

Let It Be

When I find myself in times of trouble
Mother Mary comes to me
Speaking words of wisdom, let it be.
And in my hour of darkness she is standing right in front of me
Speaking words of wisdom, let it be.
Let it be, let it be, let it be, let it be,
Whisper words of wisdom, let it be.

And when the broken hearted people
Living in the world agree
There will be an answer, let it be.
For though they may be parted there is still a chance that they will see
There will be an answer, let it be.
Let it be, let it be, let it be, let it be,
There will be an answer, let it be.

And when the night is cloudy
There is still a light that shines on me
Shine until tomorrow, let it be.
I wake up to the sound of music
Mother Mary comes to me
Speaking words of wisdom, let it be.
Let it be, let it be, let it be, let it be,
There will be an answer, let it be.

Songwriters: JOHN LENNON,PAUL MCCARTNEY
© Sony/ATV Music Publishing LLC
For non-commercial use only.
Data from: LyricFind
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21 June 2018 Shadows, Drawing, Dream and Building Relationships with People from Different Cultures (Community Toolbox)

Hello to you.  I hope this finds you well wherever and whenever you are.

My mind put together some keys and made a very strange dream for me last night.  In my waking world there was a visit to our door from two girls from Estonia.  They were foreign exchange students trying to sell children’s books and since Link and Spot can’t read, we didn’t buy any books lol.  Thinking about all the immigrant, refugee, racial and other tensions going on in our world.  Then just before bed I was reading from the Chronicles of Narnia about Edmund, Peter, Susan, Lucy and Trumpkin not letting a bear they killed go to waste and stripping it for meat for their travels.

Well the dream was of me meeting Vladimir Putin through a glass door.  He looked at me and mouthed the word, “White.”  In the dream I looked like I did back in the 90’s when I had let me hair grown long and wavy and I was really tan.  I said, “I am white.”  Then there is a scene of me using a hammer to cut raw meat on an anvil to make steaks for us to eat.

Weird right?!  I am still holding out for the day that our world leaders are all sitting together playing a round of Monster Hunter together or some PVP.

People doing yoga together outside on a beautiful day. (Source Internet)

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Y O G A = 48/12/3 cycle

When people go to work they shouldn’t have to leave their hearts at home.
Betty Bender

It’s so complicated and yet so simple what’s going on in our world today.  For example today is World Yoga Day.  It’s so simple to imagine a bunch of people from all walks of life sitting in a natural setting together.   Focused on their breathing, meditating and in my case probably drifting off for a nap.

It starts to get very complicated when you see what happens after all those same people get up and head out into their own lives.  Kind of like what happens after a church service, a concert, a festival or a family gathering.  What happens to the peace, unity, acceptance, calm, togetherness…..love for each other?  People get behind the wheels of their cars and start honking, making angry faces and tailgating their ways out of the parking lot and on to the busy roads that lead to their daily lives.

My hope for more people is for them to be able to hold on to what they experience and learn when they are sharing space with people of all walks of life beyond the experience and into the day to day world.

Seek first to understand……..

I found this on my digital travels this morning and felt it was really good and wanted to share it with you.  What is discussed here is what I think is missing from a lot of the places that are experiencing so many problems with race, religion and sexual orientation.  A lot of people operate under assumptions, misinformation, stereotypes and just narrow minded programming starting at childhood and it can cause a lot of problems at all levels of existence in our world!  It’s never too late to change and grow!

https://ctb.ku.edu/en/table-of-contents/culture/cultural-competence/building-relationships/main

Section 2. Building Relationships with People from Different Cultures

  • How do you learn about people’s cultures?

  • How do you build relationships with people from other cultures?

 

Photo of people in a circle with their hands in the middle

 

Relationships are powerful. Our one-to-one connections with each other are the foundation for change. And building relationships with people from different cultures, often many different cultures, is key in building diverse communities that are powerful enough to achieve significant goals.

Whether you want to make sure your children get a good education, bring quality health care into your communities, or promote economic development, there is a good chance you will need to work with people from several different racial, language, ethnic, or economic groups. And in order to work with people from different cultural groups effectively, you will need to build sturdy and caring relationships based on trust, understanding, and shared goals.

Why? Because trusting relationships are the glue that hold people together as they work on a common problem. As people work on challenging problems, they will have to hang in there together when things get hard. They will have to support each other to stay with an effort, even when it feels discouraging. People will have to resist the efforts of those who use divide-and-conquer techniques–pitting one cultural group against another.

Regardless of your racial, ethnic, religious, or socioeconomic group, you will probably need to establish relationships with people whose group you may know very little about.

Each one of us is like a hub of a wheel. Each one of us can build relationships and friendships around ourselves that provide us with the necessary strength to achieve community goals. If each person builds a network of diverse and strong relationships, we can come together and solve problems that we have in common.

In this section, we are going to talk about:

  • Becoming aware of your own culture as a first step in learning about other people’s culture.
  • Building relationships with people from many different cultures.

But first let’s talk about what culture is. Culture is a complex concept, with many different definitions. But, simply put, “culture” refers to a group or community with which we share common experiences that shape the way we understand the world. It includes groups that we are born into, such as gender, race, national origin, class, or religion. It can also include groups we join or become part of. For example, we can acquire a new culture by moving to a new region, by a change in our economic status, or by becoming disabled. When we think of culture this broadly we realize we all belong to many cultures at once. Do you agree? How might this apply to you?

How do you learn about people’s cultures?

Start by becoming aware of your own culture.

It may seem odd that in order to learn about people in other cultures, we start by becoming more aware of our own culture. But we believe this is true. Why?

If you haven’t had a chance to understand how your culture has affected you first hand, it’s more difficult to understand how it could affect anyone else or why it might be important to them. If you are comfortable talking about your own culture, then you will become better at listening to others talk about theirs. Or, if you understand how discrimination has affected you, then you may be more aware of how it has affected others.

Here are some tips on how to becoming more aware of your own culture:

What is your culture?

Do you have a culture? Do you have more than one? What is your cultural background?

Even if you don’t know who your ancestors are, you have a culture. Even if you are a mix of many cultures, you have one. Culture evolves and changes all the time. It came from your ancestors from many generations ago, and it comes from your family and community today.

In addition to the cultural groups we belong to, we also each have groups we identify with, such as being a parent, an athlete, an immigrant, a small business owner, or a wage worker. These kinds of groups, although not exactly the same as a culture, have similarities to cultural groups. For example, being a parent or and an immigrant may be an identity that influences how you view the world and how the world views you. Becoming aware of your different identities can help you understand what it might be like to belong to a cultural group.

Exercise:

Try listing all the cultures and identities you have: (This is just a list of suggestions to get you started. Add as many as you think describe you.)

What is your:

Religion
Nationality
Race
Sexual identity
Ethnicity
Occupation
Marital status
Age
Geographic region

Are you:

A female
A male
Disabled
From an urban area
From a rural area
A parent
A student

Have you ever been:

In the military
Poor
In prison
Wealthy
In the middle class
In the working class

Did this help you think about your identities and cultures? How have these different cultures and identities affected your life?

How do you build relationships with people from other cultures?

There are many ways that people can learn about other people’s cultures and build relationships at the same time. Here are some steps you can take. They are first listed, and then elaborated upon one at a time.

  • Make a conscious decision to establish friendships with people from other cultures.
  • Put yourself in situations where you will meet people of other cultures.
  • Examine your biases about people from other cultures.
  • Ask people questions about their cultures, customs, and views.
  • Read about other people’s culture’s and histories
  • Listen to people tell their stories
  • Notice differences in communication styles and values; don’t assume that the majority’s way is the right way
  • Risk making mistakes
  • Learn to be an ally.

Make a conscious decision to establish friendships with people from other cultures

Making a decision is the first step. In order to build relationships with people different from yourself, you have to make a concerted effort to do so. There are societal forces that serve to separate us from each other. People from different economic groups, religions, ethnic groups, and races are often isolated from each other in schools, jobs, and neighborhoods. So, if we want things to be different, we need to take active steps to make them different.

You can join a sports team or club, become active in an organization, choose a job, or move to a neighborhood that puts you in contact with people of cultures different than your own. Also, you may want to take a few minutes to notice the diversity that is presently nearby. If you think about the people you see and interact with every day, you may become more aware of the cultural differences that are around you.

Once you have made the decision to make friends with people different from yourself, you can go ahead and make friends with them in much the same way as with anyone else. You may need to take more time, and you may need to be more persistent. You may need to reach out and take the initiative more than you are used to. People who have been mistreated by society may take more time to trust you than people who haven’t. Don’t let people discourage you. There are good reasons why people have built up defenses, but it is not impossible to overcome them and make a connection. The effort is totally worth it.

Put yourself in situations where you will meet people of other cultures; especially if you haven’t had the experience of being a minority, take the risk.

One of the first and most important steps is to show up in places where you will meet people of cultures other than your own. Go to meetings and celebrations of groups whose members you want to get to know. Or hang out in restaurants and other gathering places that different cultural groups go. You may feel embarrassed or shy at first, but your efforts will pay off. People of a cultural group will notice if you take the risk of coming to one of their events. If it is difficult for you to be the only person like yourself attending, you can bring a buddy with you and support each other in making friends.

Examine your biases about people from other cultures.

We all carry misinformation and stereotypes about people in different cultures. Especially, when we are young, we acquire this information in bits and pieces from TV, from listening to people talk, and from the culture at large. We are not bad people because we acquired this; no one requested to be misinformed. But in order to build relationships with people of different cultures, we have to become aware of the misinformation we acquired.

An excellent way to become aware of your own stereotypes is to pick groups that you generalize about and write down your opinions. Once you have, examine the thoughts that came to your mind and where you acquired them.

Another way to become aware of stereotypes is to talk about them with people who have similar cultures to your own. In such settings you can talk about the misinformation you acquired without being offensive to people from a particular group. You can get together with a friend or two and talk about how you acquired stereotypes or fears of other different people. You can answer these kinds of questions:

  • How did your parents feel about different ethnic, racial, or religious groups?
  • What did your parents communicate to you with their actions and words?
  • Were your parents friends with people from many different groups?
  • What did you learn in school about a particular group?
  • Was there a lack of information about some people?
  • Are there some people you shy away from? Why?

Ask people questions about their cultures, customs, and views

People, for the most part, want to be asked questions about their lives and their cultures. Many of us were told that asking questions was nosy; but if we are thoughtful, asking questions can help you learn about people of different cultures and help build relationships. People are usually pleasantly surprised when others show interest in their cultures. If you are sincere and you can listen, people will tell you a lot.

Read about other people’s cultures and histories

It helps to read about and learn about people’s cultures and histories. If you know something about the reality of someone’s life and history, it shows that you care enough to take the time to find out about it. It also gives you background information that will make it easier to ask questions that make sense.

However, you don’t have to be an expert on someone’s culture to get to know them or to ask questions. People who are, themselves, from a culture are usually the best experts, anyway.

Don’t forget to care and show caring

It is easy to forget that the basis of any relationship is caring. Everyone wants to care and be cared about. Caring about people is what makes a relationship real. Don’t let your awkwardness around cultural differences get in the way of caring about people.

Listen to people tell their stories

If you get an opportunity to hear someone tell you her life story first hand, you can learn a lot–and build a strong relationship at the same time. Every person has an important story to tell. Each person’s story tells something about their culture.

Listening to people’s stories, we can get a fuller picture of what people’s lives are like–their feelings, their nuances, and the richness of their lives. Listening to people also helps us get through our numbness– there is a real person before us, not someone who is reduced to stereotypes in the media.

Additionally, listening to members of groups that have been discriminated against can give us a better understanding of what that experience is like. Listening gives us a picture of discrimination that is more real than what we can get from reading an article or listening to the radio.

Exercise:

You can informally ask people in your neighborhood or organization to tell you a part of their life stories as a member of a particular group. You can also incorporate this activity into a workshop or retreat for your group or organization. Have people each take five or ten minutes to talk about one piece of their life stories. If the group is large, you will probably have to divide into small groups, so everyone gets a chance to speak.

Notice differences in communication styles and values; don’t assume that the majority’s way is the right way.

We all have a tendency to assume that the way that most people do things is the acceptable, normal, or right way. As community workers, we need to learn about cultural differences in values and communication styles, and not assume that the majority way is the right way to think or behave.

Example:

You are in a group discussion. Some group members don’t speak up, while others dominate, filling all the silences. The more vocal members of the group become exasperated that others don’t talk. It also seems that the more vocal people are those that are members of the more mainstream culture, while those who are less vocal are from minority cultures.

How do we understand this? How can this be resolved?

In some cultures, people feel uncomfortable with silence, so they speak to fill the silences. In other cultures, it is customary to wait for a period of silence before speaking. If there aren’t any silences, people from those cultures may not ever speak. Also, members of some groups (women, people of low income, some racial and ethnic minorities, and others) don’t speak up because they have received messages from society at large that their contribution is not as important as others; they have gotten into the habit of deferring their thinking to the thinking of others.

When some people don’t share their thinking, we all lose out. We all need the opinions and voices of those people who have traditionally been discouraged from contributing.

In situations like the one described above, becoming impatient with people for not speaking is usually counter-productive. However, you can structure a meeting to encourage the quieter people to speak. For example, you can:

  • Have people break into pairs before discussing a topic in the larger group.
  • At certain times have each person in the circle make a comment. (People can pass if they want to.)
  • Follow a guideline that everyone speaks once, before anyone speaks twice.
  • Invite the quieter people to lead part of the meeting.
  • Talk about the problem openly in a meeting, and invite the more vocal people to try to speak less often.
  • Between meetings, ask the quieter people what would help them speak, or ask them for their ideas on how a meeting should be run.

A high school basketball team has to practice and play on many afternoons and evenings. One team member is a recent immigrant whose family requires her to attend the birthday parties of all the relatives in her extended family. The coach is angry with the parents for this requirement, because it takes his player away from the team.

How do we understand this? How can this be resolved?

Families have different values, especially when it comes to family closeness, loyalty, and responsibility. In many immigrant and ethnic families, young people are required to put their family’s needs first, before the requirements of extra-curricular activities. Young people from immigrant families who grow up in the U.S. often feel torn between the majority culture and the culture of their families; they feel pressure from each cultures to live according to its values, and they feel they have to choose between the two.

As community workers, we need to support and respect minority and immigrant families and their values. It may already be a huge concession on the part of a family to allow a teenager to participate in extracurricular activities at all. We need to make allowances for the cultural differences and try to help young people feel that they can have both worlds–instead of having to reject one set of values for another.

As community builders, it helps to develop relationships with parents. If a young person sees her parents have relationships with people from the mainstream culture, it can help her feel that their family is accepted. It supports the teen in being more connected to her family and her community–and also, both relationships are critical protective factors for drug and alcohol abuse and other dangerous behaviors. In addition, in building relationships with parents, we develop lines of communication, so when conflicts arise, they can be more easily resolved.

Risk making mistakes

As you are building relationships with people who have different cultural backgrounds than your own, you will probably make mistakes at some point. That happens. Don’t let making mistakes of making mistakes keep you from going ahead and building relationships.

If you say or do something that is insensitive, you can learn something from it. Ask the affected person what you bothered or offended them, apologize, and then go on in building the relationship. Don’t let guilt bog you down.

Learn to be an ally

One of the best ways to help you build relationships with people of different cultures is to demonstrate that you are willing to take a stand against discrimination when it occurs. People will be much more motivated to get to know you if they see that you are willing to take risks on their behalf.

We also have to educate ourselves and keep informed so that we understand the issues that each group faces and we become involved in their struggles–instead of sitting on the sidelines and watching from a distance.

In Summary

Friendship is powerful. It is our connection to each other that gives meaning to our lives. Our caring for each other is often what motivates us to make change. And establishing connections with people from diverse backgrounds can be key in making significant changes in our communities.

As individuals, and in groups, we can change our communities. We can set up neighborhoods and institutions in which people commit themselves to working to form strong relationships and alliances with people of diverse cultures and backgrounds. We can establish networks and coalitions in which people are knowledgeable about each other’s struggles, and are willing to lend a hand. Together, we can do it.

Contributor
Marya Axner

Online Resources

Brown University Training MaterialsCultural Competence and Community Studies: Concepts and Practices for Cultural Competence The Northeast Education Partnership provides online access to PowerPoint training slides on topics in research ethics and cultural competence in environmental research. These have been created for professionals/students in environmental sciences, health, and policy; and community-based research. If you are interested in receiving an electronic copy of one the presentations, just download their Materials Request Form (found on the main Training Presentations page under “related files”), complete the form, and email it to NEEPethics@yahoo.com.

The Center for Culturally and Linguistically Appropriate Services collects and describes early childhood/early intervention resources and serves as point of exchange for users.

Culture Matters is a cross-cultural training workbook developed by the Peace Corps to help new volunteers acquire the knowledge and skills to work successfully and respectfully in other cultures.

The International & Cross-Cultural Evaluation Topical Interest Group, an organization that is affiliated with the American Evaluation Association, provides evaluators who are interested in cross-cultural issues with opportunities for professional development.

The Multicultural Pavilion offers resources and dialogue for educators, students and activists on all aspects of multicultural education.

The National Center for Cultural Competence at Georgetown University increases the capacity of health care and mental health programs to design, implement and evaluate culturally and linguistically competent service delivery systems. Publications and web links available.

SIL International makes available “The Stranger’s Eyes,” an article that speaks to cultural sensitivity with questions that can be strong tools for discussion.

Study, Discussion and Action on Issues of Race, Racism and Inclusion – a partial list of resources utilized and prepared by Yusef Mgeni.

Organizations:

Center for Living Democracy
289 Fox Farm Rd
PO Box 8187
Brattleboro, VT 05304-8187
(802) 254-1234

National Coalition Building Institute (NCBI)
1835 K Street, N.W., Suite 715
Washington, D.C. 20006
(202) 785-9400

Re-evaluation Counseling
719 Second Avenue North
Seattle, WA 98109
(206) 284-0113

Southern Poverty Law Center
400 Washington Ave.
Montgomery, AL 36104

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Takaki, R. (1993). A different mirror: A history of multicultural America. Boston: Little, Brown and

16 June 2018 The World Goo, Authentic Self and Love

16 June 2018 – I’ve been wanting to draw these flowers a lot lately.

Hello to you.  How are you from wherever and whenever you are stopping to visit from?  I hope this finds you well in mind, body and spirit today.  We are doing well here.  Had a nice walk this morning.  Saw a neighbor out running that I hadn’t seen in awhile and had just been wondering how he was!  He never speaks to us, but as someone who used to run a lot, I understand he’s trying to get some time alone.  We went by one of the last work sites in the new development and heard the workers playfully bantering and being silly together.  It made me smile to hear them being so happy to be working.  Last night was free of the stuff that was going on last night but Kyle was up at 3 am instead!  Ugh!

The phrase “Be You” has been coming to me a lot lately.  Normally I embrace it as a positive creed but these days it occurs to me that phrase can ring hollow for most people.  Most people, to include myself at times, don’t even know what those two words together mean!  Be you?!  A nice phrase if you already have some idea of who you are or who you want to be!

In today’s world it is hard to separate yourself from all the worldly “goo” that tries to get into all your particles.  I have been here 50 years and that’s a lot of goo to be exposed to lol!  It’s almost a daily effort to sort myself….to keep from being overcome by the goo of life outside this house.  Unless you go completely “off the grid,”  and I mean all that’s modern in your house is a flushing toilet, there is no true escape!

What it means to “Be You” can sometimes mean a very lonely and isolated existence if you aren’t careful.   We have been living in the same place for nearly 9 years and have may be one person near us we can truly say is just beyond an acquaintance.

Something that helped me a lot in recent years was attending a couple of Level 1 Quantum Touch energy healing classes.  I learned that if you focus on what you love the most in life you can raise your energy vibration to heal yourself and to help others with healing (inside and out).

Have you ever felt that warm wash across your chest when you see someone you care about, doing something you truly enjoy, hearing a great message,  hold your significant other, dog, cat, or other special being in your life, hear a favorite song,  see a beautiful sight?  That’s what love energy feels like.  It can be a barometer for staying in “your center” or the space of your heart and help you navigate around the world goo.

Love energy is one way I have found that helps me stay true to myself, to know who I am.  When I am not feeling my heart energy then I know I have drifted away from my authentic self.

Quantum-Touch: The Power to Heal – I’ve experienced healing and shared this with others helping them heal.  It really works.  Usually, when I’ve shared this, the healing starts at the emotional/spiritual (inside) level first.    What I like most about this modality is Richard’s emphasis on who is the healer.  The healer is the person getting well! 

 

Love and compassion are necessities, not luxuries. Without them humanity cannot survive.
Dalai Lama

 

9 June 2018 Songs of our time – What Else Is There (Royksopp) and More Than This (The Cure)

I don’t know who wrote this.  I found it on the internet this morning without an author attached to it.  It was interesting to me:

Time
If the Particle in question
is to also move in time
it should change its energy
Or it stands still in time

Hello to you.  It’s morning in my here and now.  Already battling dust bunnies and ants but mercifully there is coffee and I am not the lone witness to these petty struggles lol!  How are you?  I hope this finds you well.

This morning I wanted a couple of songs for my post and What Else Is There by Royksopp and More Than This by the Cure stood out.  Songs with messages that speak to our current times.  The struggle I think so many, to include myself, are facing these days.  What else is there to this life?  Is there more than “this?”  What exactly is “this?”

For some the “this” seems to be a struggle from the moment they are born until the moment of their departure.  For some it seems only given a moment to be born and a few short days, months of years to struggle to be here and fade away.  For some the “this” is never knowing any pain, conflict or difficulty – a pampered and sheltered existence their entire lives.

Everyone seems to arrive and depart with assigned positions on the stage of life with very few roles being cast off to another player.  Painters painting, tradespeople trading, the usury using, talking heads talking, politicians politicking, soldiers soldiering, lawyers lawyering, police, fire and emergency responders flying with unseen wings from one crisis to another.  All the possible colors and textures of our skin be it human or otherwise the costumes we adorn for this blurring dance.   In between all “this,” the first of us be they of wings or fins, frantically sew all the holes we are tearing open across this planet closed with the beauty their existence.

Ever since last January I have experienced and sensed a big change in what “this” is for me personally.  I have drifted out to the darkness and looked over the edges quite a bit.  The tether that keeps me from drifting completely away made of family, friends, love, faith and hope.   I know I am extremely blessed to have this tether as far too many in this world don’t even know any of that exists!   I have seen many others also drifting out there in the confusion that is now America.  I think there is a great sense of futility in the air.  We must stay tethered to what matters most and the wisdom of the deepest part of our heart….our souls.

I’ve experienced, spoken and written many times that there is nothing of this world that can fill the void of spirit.  If you rely completely on other people, food, drink, places, things, conquests for power, do things that garner negative attention etc. to fill you up inside, you will always be left wanting more.  Just like any addiction, it takes bigger and bigger “doses” to achieve the same results until you finally realize there will never be enough to fill you up.   Then will come the questions I think people we are seeing that have lost hope are asking, “Is this it?!  Is there nothing more than this?!  What else is there?!  What do I have to do to feel alive?!”

Röyksopp – What Else Is There? (HD)

Lyrics

It was me on that road
But you couldn`t see me
Too many lights out, but nowhere near here

It was me on that road
Still you couldn`t see me
And then flashlights and explosions

Roads ends getting nearer
We cover distance but not together
I am the storm and I am the wonder
And the flashlights, nightmares
And sudden explosions

I don’t know what more to ask for
I was given just one wish

It’s about you and the sun
A morning run
The story of my maker
What have I and what I ache for

I`ve got a golden ear
I cut and I spear
And what else is there
Roads and getting nearer
We cover distance still not together

If I am the storm if I am the wonder
Will I have flashlights, nightmares
And sudden explosions

There is no room where I can go and
You`ve got secrets too

I don`t know what more to ask for
I was given just one wish

Songwriters: DANNY SHOSHAN,ROBERT HUXLEY,ROGER GREENAWAY,SVEIN BERGE,TOBJOR BRUNDTLAND,KARIN DREIGER,OLAF DREIGER,TONY MACAULEY
© Kobalt Music Publishing Ltd.,Sony/ATV Music Publishing LLC,Universal Music Publishing Group
For non-commercial use only.
Data From: LyricFind

 

Sometimes I will grasp around for something to energize me, to make me happy and often find there is nothing.  So I go outside with my music and just flop down on my cot and look up or take off my shoes and just stand still with my arms raised to the sky.  The “this” I am seeking most often finds me then.   In the eyes of my husband and my dogs, in the songs of the birds, the buzzing of the bees, the dirt between my toes, the petals of the flowers, the whispers of the trees, the blazing sun, the gentle breeze that caresses my arm and the billowing clouds overhead all is “this”…God.  

 

8 June 2018 – Drawing yesterday. The word “corners” came to mind after I was done with it.

 

the cure – more than this

 

Lyrics

For this second of your life,

Tell me that its true,

Waiting for a sign,

That’s all I want of you.

Your heart hides a secret

A promise of what is,

Something more than this.

 

Just a second of your time,

Any one will do,

Taste of any other,

Is all I want from you,

You offer me the world,

And how can I resist

Something more than this?

 

Make believe in magic

Make believe in dreams

Make believe impossible,

Nothing as it seems

To see touch taste smell hear

But never know if its real

 

For this second of your life

Tell me if its true

Anyway we are

Is all I want of you

Your lips lies a secret

A promise of a kiss

Something more than this

 

Just a second of your time

Any one will do

To know any other is all I want for you

Giving me the world

Now I can’t resist

Something more than this

 

Make believe in magic

Make believe in dreams

Make believe impossible

Nothing as it seems

Never really understand what anything means

 

Another second of my life

Not knowing if its true

Make believe in nothing

Is all I want of you

Whisper me your secret

Whisper me your ears

Always something other

Something more than this…

 

Songwriters: JAMES SMITH,NATHAN BARDEEN,RORY DOLAN,TODD EISENKERCH

© Universal Music Publishing Group

For non-commercial use only.

Data From: LyricFind

 

 

8 June 2018 These Little things (poem)

7 June 2018 – I was thinking as I did this that sometimes it can feel like life is a tunnel.

Hello to you.  We made it, it’s Friday morning (here).   If you are reading this, we did an amazing thing and survived life on this planet another day!  One of the things Kyle and I often say, and I picked this up from my AA days, “It’s always a good day when you wake up on the green side.”  No matter how much proverbial shit the world will shovel to us at times, getting a new day to try again is a blessing.  It may not always feel like it, but life is yet a gift.

As we started off on our walk with Link and Spot this morning we stopped by the mail box and found a love and a hug sealed in an envelope from my Aunt Ruth!  What a lovely way to start the day getting love from across the miles!  Her card will join my Mom’s by my bedside!

8 June 2018 – What a loving message to receive from my Aunt in the mailbox this morning!

I took the camera out back this morning.

These Little Things – Jackie

Each day is a combination so random and yet carefully planned

Who will go where, who will say and do what

Where each one will stand.

In between all the hurry and flurry I see these little things

The fluttering, flapping and singing

All the beings of the earth and sky with wings

The peek-a-boo cat hiding behind the neighbors tree

Watching for rabbits with one eye and with the other

Spying on me

The tired little rose, the last on the bush to bloom

The morning sun through the window

Casting light through dust particles in the room

The fleck of red in my husbands beard and light of his smile

Our little Link resting comfortably in his well-worn bed

On the tile.

These little things all fragments of one part

All the most important things

That fit into my heart.

———-

Indeed, for me, it’s the little things I come back to the most when I need to find my way when I’ve strayed off the path of heart centered living.  When Kyle and I find ourselves really getting crabby and bitching too much about things we stop the train of thought with one question, “What are you grateful for?”  Usually that’s all it takes to turn things around.  I saw this post on my Facebook feed this morning and it resonated:

8 June 2018 – I saw this on my FB feed this morning and it resonated: If you can stay positive in a negative situation, you win.

 

7 June 2018 Why? (Suicide)

Hello to you.  How are you doing in the moment you are in visiting here?  I’m doing o.k.  Kyle and I aren’t feeling 100% today.  This too shall pass!  It always does.

We are having the suicide discussion as a country again after another public figure took her own life.   I didn’t know who Kate Spade was until hearing about her death on the news yesterday.

https://www.msn.com/en-us/health/medical/suicide-rate-us-saw-25percent-increase-since-1999-cdc-says/ar-AAylNWS?OCID=ansmsnnews11

Suicide rate: US saw 25% increase since 1999, CDC says
By Susan Scutti, CNN

Suicide rates increased by 25% across the United States over nearly two decades ending in 2016, according to research published Thursday by the US Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. Twenty-five states experienced a rise in suicides by more than 30%, the government report finds.

More than half of those who died by suicide had not been diagnosed with a mental health condition, said Dr. Anne Schuchat, principal deputy director of the CDC.

“These findings are disturbing. Suicide is one of the top 10 causes of death in the US right now, and it’s one of three causes that is actually increasing recently, so we do consider it a public health problem — and something that is all around us,” Schuchat said. The other two top 10 causes of death that are on the rise are Alzheimer’s disease and drug overdoses, she noted.

In 2016 alone, about 45,000 lives were lost to suicide.

“Our data show that the problem is getting worse,” Schuchat said.

7 June 2018 – drawing I did this morning for my friend.

There are so many personal reasons for deciding to end it all.  My Mother, my Grandfather and my cousin actually went through with it.  I will tell you  their choosing to take their own lives was definitely a deterrent for me making the same choices.  It’s easier to leave than it is to be left after something like that.  The survivors are left with so many questions, the “what if I’d only’s,” blame, shame and overwhelming despair.  For many years I blamed myself for my Mom’s taking her own life.  They said she suffered from baby blues or post-partum depression and when I found out what that was, I blamed myself for her choosing to die.

I don’t have all the answers.  I’ve been in the mental health system since the 1990’s and it really hasn’t changed too much since then which is really sad.  I’m seeing way too much emphasis on drug therapy and too little on alternatives like talk, art, musical, spiritual and physical therapy.   I won’t say that the pills haven’t helped me at all, but I will say that there have been times that nothing of this earth could begin to contain what was going on inside of me.

What’s my opinion as someone who is in the risk group of this “crisis”?

A good start would be to work as a country to remove the stigmas attached to mental illness.  May be people would be more inclined to get the help they need.    Another, probably the most important thing,  would be to make reputable mental health care accessible and affordable to anyone who needs it.  I’m not talking just handing people a bunch more pills….obviously that is tipping the suicide tables.   I’m talking about integrated mental health care that deals with the entirety a human being is – their mind, body and spirit.   Troubled people need someone they can trust, someone with integrity who they can talk to about their problems on a regular basis.  They should be able to do this without having to choose between doing that and putting food on their table.  Sometimes that’s all somebody needs is just to talk and get things out of their own head!

It’s sad that it takes another famous person to die before this issue gets serious attention.  Mental health and suicide is a lot like the gun issue.  It surfaces, gets talked about for awhile, everybody throws up their hands because it’s too complicated and volatile to deal with and it gets pushed aside until the next time.  Unfortunately, there is always going to be a next time with this.

https://www.bustle.com/p/9-people-on-the-alternative-type-of-therapy-thats-working-for-them-9244860several of these suggestions are in my personal toolkit. 

9 People On The Alternative Type Of Therapy That’s Working For Them

While the jury is still out on why, it’s pretty clear that mental illness is on the rise in the United States in recent years. Titles like “The Meteoric Rise of Mental Illness in America and Implications for Other Countries” and “The Alarming Rise in Teen Mental Illness” blare at us from social media and news outlets. Mass shooting after mass shooting is attributed to individual mental health problems, rather than structural societal ones. The opioid epidemic barrels forward, with no sign of stopping. And, at the same time, a recent CDC study found that despite increases in serious mental distress, access to mental health services are on the decline.

“Alternative” therapy just refers to anything that isn’t traditional talk therapy or cognitive behavioral therapy. (You, know — the image of sitting down in a room with a therapist and talking about your feelings.) It can include working with a professional or can simply be an activity that helps people manage their minds, feelings, and symptoms. While traditional therapy has been and continues to be a great resource for people dealing with mental health issues and trauma, it’s not available to or not the right fit for plenty of people.

With that in mind, here are nine people who use different types of alternative therapy, and why they love it.

1Arielle, 27: Dance

Andrew Zaeh/Bustle

“I suffer from pretty intense derealization and dissociation and find that dance is one of the only modalities to really help get me back into my body. When I stay consistent, I find it’s really helpful. I’ve been off the wagon for a bit and notice my symptoms intensify when I haven’t danced in a while. By just having a few moments of tapping back into my body and myself, I find that I don’t get as anxious or nervous when I’m floating above myself the rest of the day, because I have a point of reference to come back to.

I just recently started getting back into traditional therapy, which is definitely helpful but doesn’t alleviate any symptoms. It’s been a great way to focus on the specific issues I want to work on and make me feel like I’m doing everything I can to get better, but it doesn’t necessarily help me get better.”

2Anonymous: Trauma Sensitive Yoga

Andrew Zaeh/Bustle

“[I use] trauma sensitive yoga to incorporate therapy and healing into my physical body once I had gotten to that stage in my recovery. Yes, I am still doing both [traditional and alternative therapy]. I find the combination of “traditional” and “alternative” to be the most effective, rather than one or the other.”

3Irene, 40: Somatic Experiencing Therapy

Andrew Zaeh/Bustle

“[I chose this form of therapy] because trauma is stored in the body and cannot be released by talking about it. Somatic Experiencing works with the nervous system to release stuck energy from a past nervous system activation (when we were unable to fight/flee or froze) that did not get discharged (nervous system was not allowed to calm down), thereby creating a new balanced, relaxed and calm normal.

Somatic Experiencing helped me release pent up anger and regulate my nervous system, releasing most triggers that would have created anxiety in the past. I have done traditional therapy and coaching before and it helped to a point — but it did not go deep enough within the body, so I had outbursts of anger and anxiety that I did not know were coming from or how to manage them.”

4Genya: Reiki

glisic_albina/Fotolia

“I found a therapist who is also a reiki practitioner, so she offers both talk therapy and reiki for my anxiety. And since she’s an LMHC my insurance covers our visits. I love it! It’s an amazing option for dealing with stress and anxiety. When I’m having trouble slowing down to process complex emotions, it’s a great tool.”

5Emma, 31: Acupuncture

Joe Raedle/Getty Images News/Getty Images

“I actually started acupuncture as treatment for a hormone imbalance, but I found that talking about the different things that are affecting my energy each week has been as therapeutic as — if not more than — the needles themselves. I’ve done traditional therapy in the past but the thought of finding a therapist right now exhausts me. Starting acupuncture felt like a much lower barrier to entry.”

6Chris, 45: Biking

Thomas Lohnes/Getty Images News/Getty Images

“I hate all people. You know, pretty much. [I chose biking because] it’s biking. Ipso facto, it is awesome. Did couples counseling once. Meh. People are really really really stupid and there’s just no substitute for good ol’ introspection.”

7Michael, 43: 5 Rhythms And Ecstatic Dance

Andrew Zaeh for Bustle

“Check out Maps to Ecstasy by Gabrielle Roth. It’s an effective and fun way to process through emotions via movement. And the community is amazing, all over the world. I have not done traditional therapy, but am familiar with it. The model isn’t my style.”

8Alex, 30: Meditation, Self-Help Books

Andrew Zaeh/Bustle

“[I chose this type of therapy because] I feel like it is more on my time. I like that I’m not expecting anything of anyone else, even a therapist… I know from the outside it looks great. I’m positive that I’m checking lots of societal boxes, but I’m not sure I’m doing all I want to. No, I know I’m not. I want a lot.”

9D, 31: Meditation Community

Andrew Zaeh for Bustle

“[I found this type of therapy] through my family. It is a beautiful and supportive community that encourages me to change how I view, react to, and accept circumstances instead of constantly thinking something is ‘wrong’ with me. I still do [traditional therapy]. But meds weren’t doing it. I needed to change how I saw the world instead of hoping a pill a day might completely save me from traumatic past”.

There you have it — nine people and the type of alternative therapy that they use. When it comes to treating a mental health issue, there’s clearly no one-size-fits-all answer. The most important thing is that you find something that works for you.

 

6 June 2018 A Day of Nice Surprises

6 June 2018 Spot and Link have both been enjoying the new window seat!

Hello there.  Hope this finds you well as you visit me here.  Today was a day filled with nice surprises.  I lost my medicine doctor, apparently she quit which was very upsetting because we both liked her.  So it is understandable we were both apprehensive about my appointment today.  Turns out God had it handled.  We were blessed with the quit witted Nurse practitioner named Mary.  She had the most lovely Nigerian (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nigeria) accent.  She said that even after 20 years she hasn’t lost her accent and I told her I hope she never does!  Sadly, there is no guarantee she will be there for my next appointment so I will just be glad we met.

 I wrote this little poem/prayer for my previous doctor in the waiting room:

“We meet, we greet, sorrow and joys exchanged and sometimes there is no farewell when our lives are rearranged.  So I will whisper thank you to the air and hope somehow God will help you hear. ”

Isn’t that the way of so many interactions we have with people online or in life?  We will get to know someone and then they just abruptly move on to another phase of their lives without saying good-bye?  I hope for whatever reason she left, many wonderful new and exciting doors will open and be a blessing for her.

We stopped by the Country Store in Grandview on the way home and got some things for lunches.  We can only go in there about once a month otherwise I’d probably buy everything in the store!   When we got home, even the dogs seemed to know we had been someplace wonderful which was later confirmed by their getting bites of our sandwiches.

This afternoon there was a knock on the door from the UPS truck and a surprise was waiting there!  My friend sent me a large box of Crayola chalks with all sorts of fancy colors in it!  What a sweet thing for her to do and so appreciated.  They will definitely get used!  My family and friends that I keep in touch with long distance like it when I share my chalk drawings.  My friend who sent these new chalks is one of my biggest supporters.  I am so grateful for her!

6 June 2018 – me with the box of colorful chalks from my friend. They will definitely get used!

Earlier this afternoon, before the new chalks had arrived, I went out and did this drawing.  Turns out Kyle has chosen Thor: Ragnarok as the movie we were watching the evening.  This drawing makes me think of Hela who was portrayed by a woman who has literally been in my dreams, the beautiful Cate Blanchett!

Hela (comics) Hela is a fictional character appearing in American comic books published by Marvel Comics. The Asgardian goddess of death is based on the Norse goddess, Hel. The ruler of Hel and Niflheim, the character has been a frequent foe of Thor.

Kyle and I thoroughly enjoyed this movie!  Everything from the writing, the humor, the chemistry between the actors…just awesome!  We felt very much like we did after we watched the very first Revengers *cough Avengers film.  We loved the balance of humor, action and drama.  The references to actors other screen works was funny too like 177A Bleecker Street versus 221 Baker Street for the unexpected meeting with Dr. Strange aka Sherlock Holmes!

This film was directed by Taika Waititi.   We were first introduced to who Taika was when we saw him in What We Do In The Shadows.  That was such a fun film!  It’s one of the rare films of that genre we added to our collection almost right after we saw it!   Anyhew, a big thumbs up from our house for everyone involved with this film.

Thor: Ragnarok · Director
Thor: Ragnarok comes directed by Taika Waititi who also acts in the film alongside Chris Hemsworth, Tom Hiddleston, Cate Blanchett, Idris Elba, Jeff Goldblum, Tessa Thompson, Mark Ruffalo, Anthony Hopkins and Benedict Cumberbatch.

“Thor: Ragnarok” Official Trailer

What We Do in the Shadows – just for fun!

6 June 2018 Zombies (Dream) and Not Ours To Take

Hello to you.  How are you this morning?  I have been sleeping but just don’t feel rested if that makes sense.  It seems like a long time since I woke up where you stretch and yawn and just feel rejuvenated.  It doesn’t help having pretty much nonstop dreams lately, most of which I am not remembering.  Which isn’t a bad thing because at least then I’m staying in bed and not getting up to write dreams down constantly through the night.

The dream that was memorable from last night was of being in like a hospital type setting and seeing people throwing up.  Then I was out in a field being “zombie bait” and yelling at a bunch of pale, shambling people trying to come after me.  Then I saw drawings similar to those I did when my friend and I were talking about chakras and holistic health.  Before I woke up I was in Prince Roger’s Nelsons car and nervous to drive it lol.

WEIRD!  I’m thinking the zombies symbolized how a lot of Americans have become when it comes to health and their well being.  Anyhew, writing my dreams down and sharing helps me lol – so thank you for enduring.

So warning, don’t talk about selling your house if you aren’t prepared to have someone actually ask you to sell your house!

I went to bed upset last night because my friend and I were talking about our selling our house to them.  For as many times as I’ve talked about it and wanted to do it, we know we just can’t do it right now.  With Kyle’s job situation, my health, our fragile finances, having two dogs and all our stuff…we just can’t hop out of this house easily.   If Kyle had a secure job, I  was more stable and we knew we had a place to smoothly transition to, we’d seriously consider it!  Sometimes having bought a house feels like a trap lol.   I don’t know if anyone can relate to what I’m talking about here.  It must be so stressful for people and families who do this all the time.  Moving was so much easier when I was in the military!

Today I saw some stuff a friend posted about being in a sacred place and she was taking stuff from it for the work she does.  I found myself getting upset.  I guess because I used to do it too.  I’ve always been a “rockhound” and like to pick up rocks and stones when I’m in nature.  In recent years I’ve stopped myself from doing this or at least I put them back where I found them.  I’m getting even more reluctant to buy  more crystals and stuff like I used to.  I guess I realize that if I buy crystals, take dirt, rocks or other things from sacred public places,  then other people’s experience in this world will be diminished.

It seems like as human beings we have it embedded in us to touch things, to want to collect tangible momentos from travels to such places, to take resources that will benefit us financially.  It is easy to forget in our fervor there will be others who follow in our steps.  We must find restraint and  acknowledge that if we take everything from these places,  all that will be left for future generations will be a barren vistas.

https://www.legendsofamerica.com/na-proverbs/

We will be known forever by the tracks we leave. – Dakota

The-whole-of-planet-Earth-is-a-sacred-site-and-we-are-all-One

2 June 2018 The Layers (Ancestral Trauma, Trauma in DNA, Intergenerational and Historic Trauma)

Hello to you.  How are you doing so far in your where and when?  I’m doing pretty well.  The subjects today are kind of heavy but hopefully this message is intended for more than just myself.

Recently I have been in discussion in an online support group about ancestral karma and it’s connection to mental illnesses.  I mentioned what I’ve noticed during my time at inpatient facilities is that people seem to be walking around with layers on top of them – like past selves.   As a sensitive person (Empath/HSP), I was deeply affected and reacted to these layers these troubled folks I was sharing time and space with were carrying around.  I know some of what was going on was the projecting of my past on to them – like seeing archetypes of family or friends in these people and reacting to them.  It was a very confusing experience!

2 June 2018 – my outdoor chalk drawing this morning. Thinking of the Layers theme.

I believe that our souls travel from one life to the next, one body to the next.  Who we are as people (how we think, how we act, what we are interested in, what we have an aptitude towards, how we express ourselves emotionally etc) is part of a complex weaving of DNA, blood, ingesting and assimilating into ourselves the elements from what we eat, what we drink, what we are exposed to via the senses day to day.

All of this tangible energy matter woven via particles around an intangible soul of energy…spirit.   It’s like we are comprised of layers very much like an onion if that make sense.  The ancestral/karmic layers unseen but like a cloak around us.  This cloak passed on through generation and generation to us to wear.  Some cloaks are very unpleasant and heavy to wear!  Sometimes made up of trauma, abuse, addiction, scarcity, loss and sorrow.

I have found through my experience with practicing and experiencing energy healing, that healing the inside first makes a space for the physical body to heal.   

Well back to the ancestral karma discussion.  In talking about “layers” in people, one of the group members shared this fascinating piece from PBS about the study of how trauma from past generations can affect the DNA of future ones:

http://www.pbs.org/newshour/extra/daily-videos/can-trauma-be-passed-to-next-generation-through-dna/

http://player.pbs.org/viralplayer/2365554485/ – (video you can watch if you go to link)

New research suggests that experiencing intense psychological trauma may have a genetic impact on a person’s future children.

A study examining the DNA of Holocaust survivors and their children found similar variations from the norm in both generations for the gene associated with depression and anxiety disorders. The findings imply that children of individuals who experience profound stress in life may be more likely to develop stress or anxiety disorders themselves.

The pattern — known as an epigenetic change because it affects the chemical marker for the gene rather than the gene itself — suggests that profound stress in the older generation translated into an adaptation that passed on to the next, said Dr. Rachel Yehuda, director of Mount Sinai’s Traumatic Stress Studies Division and leader of the study.

Scientists have long-known that parents pass genetic traits down to their children, but Yehuda’s research suggests that life experiences can also produce chemical effects in DNA. Similar research has been done into the effects of famine on later generations, as well as stress levels in the children of women who survived the September 11th attacks.

Although the study involved just 32 Holocaust survivors and their offspring, Yehuda said the findings provide proof of concept that could lead to more research into exactly how the changes occur.

The findings may provide an explanation for why people like Karen Sonneberg struggle with anxiety and stress disorders despite having never experienced trauma themselves. Sonneberg’s Jewish parents both suffered under Nazi oppression in Germany at a young age. She said many of her friends with similar backgrounds experienced similar struggles with anxiety.

“There were definitely challenges that quote unquote ‘American’ kids didn’t seem to have experienced,” Sonneberg said.

Reading this made me think about a subject I’ve shared about many times, Intergenerational Trauma:

https://saymber.com/2015/03/04/4-march-2015-intergenerational-and-historical-trauma-and-forgiveness/ – if you type intergenerational in the search window you’ll find all the other posts I’ve done on this subject

This article pertains to Native American and Alaskan Native Communities but if you look through history, this concept and study can apply to all walks of life on this earth at one point in history or another.    

https://blog.samhsa.gov/2015/11/25/the-impact-of-historical-and-intergenerational-trauma-on-american-indian-and-alaska-native-communities/#.WxKOmeSG-M8

The Impact of Historical and Intergenerational Trauma on American Indian and Alaska Native Communities

November 25, 2015 / SAMHSA / Tribal

By: Paolo del Vecchio, M.S.W., Director, Center for Mental Health Services, Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration

Trauma not only effects those who directly experience it, but also those in the generations that follow. Dr. Maria Yellow Horse Brave Heart describes historical trauma as the “cumulative emotional and psychological wounding across generations, including the lifespan, which emanates from massive group trauma.”

The span of one generation is not a long time. In fact, an American Indian or Alaska Native (AI/AN) who is over the age of 30 is only one generation removed from the “boarding school era.” During this era, many AI/AN children were removed from their homes, families, and communities and forced to assimilate to the culture and practices of the majority population. These experiences caused a ripple effect of intergenerational trauma throughout Indian Country.

When discussing the effects of this historical trauma, many AI/ANs have been told to “get over it.” However, dismissing what happened does not help these communities move forward. To move forward, this history and its effects on AI/AN communities must be understood. This is not dwelling on the past, but ensuring a brighter future by addressing barriers and creating solutions.

As noted in the White House’s 2014 Native Youth Report, tribes, federal and state programs, and non-profit organizations are creating focused strategies to overcome historical trauma. There is a specific focus on Native youth and supporting their return to cultural traditions, practices, and language. Strengthening ties to community and culture have been successful in promoting behavioral health and supporting recovery.

One way tribes have started addressing historical and cultural trauma is by Gathering of Native Americans (GONA) and Gathering of Alaska Natives (GOAN). GONA and GOAN focus on the underlying reasons causing individuals, families and communities to become at risk for addictions and self-destructive behaviors while recognizing the importance of cultural values, traditions and spirituality in healing.

By reflecting the four levels of life’s teachings – belonging, mastery, interdependence and generosity – GONA and GOAN provide a structure for communities to address healing, and how to develop response plans and strategies. The GONA and GOAN are also important because they confront historical trauma in culturally sensitive and healthy ways that allow for critical prevention planning. More than just a one-time event, they are the start of continuous community efforts.

Access to the River: Community Capacity Building through the GONA Process

 

https://www.consciousreminder.com/2017/07/17/family-karma-release-energetic-ties-ancestors/

Ancestral Karma refers to the karma that has been accrued by our family, our ancestors, parents, grandparents, great grandparents, and other relatives, Uncles, Aunts and so on. This Karma has built up within families for generations.

29 May 2018 After The Rollercoaster Ride, Rising Appalachia (Medicine), Purple Lady (drawing) and Weird and Wonderful Words

28 May 2018 – I was thinking of Aurora Borealis when I did this one. May be some day I’ll get to see the real thing!

Rising Appalachia- Medicine [Official Music Video] (my friend shared this recently and it resonated with me)

Hello to you there in your where and when as you visit here.  How are you?  I’m in a good place mentally, physically and spiritually this morning and feeling very grateful.  Things are finally balancing out after the last rollercoaster ride of a cycle I was on.  I’m writing, doing art, communicating and not feeling so paranoid and mistrustful.  I’m so grateful and feel so blessed that my family and friends stood by and waited for me with love to get around the corner with it.  Kyle is working on a second set of angel gear after all he’s been through with me!

I found this in my internet wanderings this morning and thought it would be fun to share.   Do you recognize any of the words?  There were a couple for me lol.  Some of these words I didn’t even know existed!  Apple-knocker is one that stood out for me LOL!

Hugs, love, light, laughter, joy and healing to you today!

https://en.oxforddictionaries.com/explore/weird-and-wonderful-words

Weird and wonderful words

You might most frequently use OxfordDictionaries.com to double-check the spelling or pronunciation of a word, or to find a synonym for a common term. But sometimes you might want to learn a new and unfamiliar word – one which you probably won’t need in everyday conversation or writing, but which is fun, interesting, and unusual.

We’ve brought together a list of some weird and wonderful words, from aa (a kind of volcanic lava) all the way to the Zyrian language. Along the way you’ll encounter words for ‘resembling an ostrich’, ‘a bird’s wishbone’, and the technical term for the big toe…

aa a kind of volcanic lava that forms jagged masses with a light frothy texture; in an unrelated sense (‘a stream’) aa is the first entry in the Oxford English Dictionary
abaya a full-length, sleeveless outer garment worn by Arabs
abomasum the fourth stomach of a ruminant, such as a cow or sheep
absquatulate to leave somewhere abruptly
adscititious additional
afreet a powerful jinn or demon in Arabian and Muslim mythology
Albertopolis a group of museums and other cultural institutions in South Kensington in London, named after Prince Albert
alcazar a Spanish palace or fortress
amphibology a phrase or sentence that is grammatically ambiguous, such asShe sees more of her children than her husband
amphisbaena a mythical serpent with a head at each end
anfractuous winding or circuitous
anguilliform resembling an eel
apoptosis the death of cells which occurs as a normal part of an organism’s growth or development
apple-knocker US informal an ignorant or unsophisticated person
argle-bargle copious but meaningless talk or writing
Argus-eyed vigilant, referring to Argos, a Greek mythological watchman with a hundred eyes
argute shrewd
ariel a gazelle found in the Middle East and North Africa
aristotle Austral. rhyming slang a bottle
aspergillum an implement used for sprinkling holy water in religious ceremonies
astrobleme an eroded remnant of a large, ancient crater made by the impact of a meteorite or comet
Attic salt refined, incisive wit
autotomy the casting off of a limb or other part of the body by an animal under threat, such as a lizard
badmash Indian a hooligan
bandoline a sticky preparation used for setting hair
bardolatry humorous excessive admiration of Shakespeare (‘the Bard of Avon’)
Barmecide illusory or imaginary and therefore disappointing
barn burner N. Amer. a very exciting or dramatic event, especially a sports contest; first used of an exceptionally good hand at bridge.
bashment W. Indian a large party or dance
bawbee Scottish a coin of low value
benthos the flora and fauna on the bottom of a sea or lake
bergschrund a type of crevasse
bezoar a small hard, solid mass which may form in the stomachs of animals such as goats or sheep
bibliopole a person who buys and sells books, especially rare ones
bichon frise a breed of toy dog with a fine, curly white coat
bilboes an iron bar with sliding shackles, used to fasten prisoners’ ankles
bindlestiff N. Amer. a tramp
bingle Austral. informal a collision
blatherskite a person who talks at great length without making much sense
bleeding edge the very forefront of technological development
blind pig N. Amer. informal a place where alcoholic drinks are sold illegally
bobsy-die a great deal of fuss or trouble
boffola N. Amer. informal a joke that gets a loud or hearty laugh
boilover Austral. informal a surprise result in a sporting event
borborygmus a rumbling or gurgling noise in the intestines
breatharian a person who believes that it is possible, through meditation, to reach a level of consciousness where one can exist on air alone
Brobdingnagian gigantic, from Brobdingnag, a country in Jonathan Swift’sGulliver’s Travels
bruxism involuntary and habitual grinding of the teeth
bumbo a drink of rum, sugar, water, and nutmeg
burnsides a moustache in combination with whiskers on the cheeks but no beard on the chin
cacoethes an urge to do something inadvisable
callipygian having shapely buttocks
callithumpian like a discordant band or a noisy parade
camisado a military attack carried out at night
canorous melodious or resonant
cantillate to chant or intone a passage of religious text
carphology convulsive or involuntary movements made by delirious patients, such as plucking at the bedclothes
catoptromancy foretelling the future by means of a mirror
cereology the study or investigation of crop circles
cerulean deep sky blue
chad a piece of waste paper produced by punching a hole
chalkdown S. African informal a teachers’ strike
chanticleer a rooster in a fairy tale
chiliad a thousand things or a thousand years
chump change N. Amer. informal a small or insignificant sum of money
claggy Brit. dialect sticky or able to form sticky lumps
clepsydra an early clock using the flow of water into or out of a container
colporteur a person who peddles books, newspapers, or other writings, especially bibles and religious tracts
comess W. Indian a confused or noisy situation
commensalism an association between two organisms in which one benefits from the relationship and the other derives neither harm nor benefit
comminatory threatening, punitive, or vengeful
concinnity elegance or neatness of literary or artistic style
congius an ancient Roman liquid measure equal in modern terms to about 6 imperial pints
conniption (or conniption fit) N. Amer. informal a fit of rage or hysterics
constellate to gather together in a cluster or group
coprolalia the involuntary repetitive use of obscene language
coriaceous like leather
couthy Scottish (of a person) warm and friendly; (of a place) cosy and comfortable
criticaster a minor or incompetent critic
crore Indian ten million
crottle a lichen used in Scotland to make a brownish dye for wool
croze a groove at the end of a cask or barrel in which the head is fixed
cryptozoology the search for and study of animals whose existence is unproven, such as the Loch Ness monster and the yeti
cudbear a purple or violet powder used for dyeing, made from lichen
cupreous of or like copper
cyanic blue; azure
cybersquatting the practice of registering well-known names as Internet domain names, in the hope of reselling them at a profit
dariole a small round metal mould used in French cooking for an individual sweet or savoury dish
deasil clockwise or in the direction of the sun’s course
decubitus Medicine the posture of someone who is lying down or lying in bed
deedy industrious or effective
defervescence Medicine the lessening of a fever
deglutition the action or process of swallowing
degust to taste food or drink carefully, so as to fully appreciate it
deipnosophist a person skilled in the art of dining and dinner-table conversation
deracinate to tear something up by the roots
deterge to cleanse something thoroughly
didi Indian an older sister or female cousin
digerati people with expertise or professional involvement in information technology
dight clothed or equipped; also, to make something ready for use
discobolus a discus thrower in ancient Greece
disembogue to emerge or pour out (used of a river or stream)
disenthral to set someone free from enslavement
divagate to stray or digress
divaricate to stretch or spread apart
donkey engine a small auxiliary engine on a ship
donkeyman a man working in a ship’s engine room
doryphore a pedantic and annoyingly persistent critic of others
dotish W. Indian stupid or silly
douceur a financial inducement or bribe
draff dregs or refuse
dragoman an interpreter or professional guide for travellers, especially one in countries in which Arabic, Turkish, or Persian is spoken
dumbsize to reduce the staff numbers of a company to such low levels that work can no longer be carried out effectively
dwaal S. African a dreamy, dazed, or absent-minded state
ecdysiast a striptease performer
edacious having to do with eating or fond of eating
effable able to be described in words. Its opposite, ineffable, is more widely used.
emacity fondness for buying things
emmetropia the normal condition of the eye: perfect vision
empasm a perfumed powder sprinkled on the body to prevent sweating or for medicinal purposes
ensorcell to enchant or fascinate someone
entomophagy the eating of insects, especially by people
erf S. African a plot of land
ergometer an apparatus which measures energy expended during physical exercise
erubescent reddening or blushing
e-tailer a retailer who sells goods on the Internet
etui a small ornamental case for holding needles, cosmetics, and other articles
eucatastrophe a happy ending to a story
eurhythmic in harmonious proportion
eviternity eternal existence or everlasting duration
exequies funeral rites
exsanguine bloodless or anaemic
extramundane outside or beyond the physical world
eye candy visual images that are superficially attractive and entertaining but intellectually undemanding
eyewater W. Indian tears
famulus an assistant or attendant, especially one working for a magician or scholar
fankle Scottish to tangle or entangle something
fipple the mouthpiece of a recorder or similar wind instrument
flatline to die
flews the thick pendulous lips of a bloodhound or similar dog
floccinaucinihilipilification the action or habit of estimating something as worthless (a word generally only quoted as a curiosity)
flocculent having or resembling tufts of wool
force-ripe West Indian old or mature in certain respects without having developed fully in others
forehanded chiefly N. Amer. prudent or thrifty
frondeur a political rebel
fugacious transient or fleeting
funambulist a tightrope walker
furuncle a boil
fuscous dark and sombre in colour
futhark the Scandinavian runic alphabet
futz to waste time or busy oneself aimlessly
gaberlunzie Scottish archaic a beggar
gaita a kind of bagpipe played in northern Spain and Portugal
galligaskins a type of loose breeches worn in the 16th and 17th centuries
gallus Scottish bold or daring
gasconade extravagant boasting
glabrous (of skin) hairless or (of a leaf) having no down
glaikit Scottish & N. English stupid, foolish, or thoughtless
gnathic having to do with the jaws
gobemouche a gullible or credulous listener
goodfella a gangster, especially a member of a Mafia family
guddle Scottish to fish with one’s hands by groping under the stones or banks of a stream
habile deft or skilful
hallux Anatomy the big toe
haruspex a religious official in ancient Rome who inspected the entrails of sacrificial animals in order to foretell the future
higgler W. Indian a person who travels from place to place selling small items
hinky US informal dishonest, suspect, or unreliable
hoddy-noddy a foolish person
hodiernal of today
hoggin a mixture of sand and gravel, used especially in road-building
hongi a traditional Maori greeting or salutation made by pressing or touching noses
howff Scottish a favourite meeting place or haunt, especially a pub
humdudgeon an imaginary illness
hunt-and-peck using only one or two fingers on a computer keyboard
hwyl a stirring feeling of emotional motivation and energy which is associated with the Welsh people
illywhacker Austral. informal a small-time confidence trickster
incrassate thickened in form or consistency
incunabula books printed before 1501
ingurgitate to swallow something greedily
inspissate to thicken or congeal
inunct to apply ointment to someone or something
jumbuck Austral. informal a sheep
jumentous resembling horse’s urine
jungli Indian uncultured or wild
karateka a person who performs karate
keek Scottish to peep surreptitiously
kenspeckle Scottish conspicuous or easily recognizable
kinnikinnick a substance consisting of dried sumac leaves and willow or dogwood bark, smoked by North American Indians
kylie Austral. a boomerang
labarum a banner or flag bearing symbolic motifs
lablab a tropical Asian plant of the pea family
lactarium a dairy
liripipe the long dangling tail of a medieval academic hood
loblolly a North American pine tree with very long slender needles
lobola among southern African peoples, the money or cattle given by a bridegroom’s family to the bride’s family
logomachy an argument about words
lollygag to spend time in an aimless or lazy way
luculent (of speech or writing) clearly expressed
lycanthropy the supernatural transformation of a person into a wolf
macushla Irish an affectionate form of address
mallam a learned man or scribe in Nigeria and other parts of Africa
mamaguy W. Indian to try to deceive someone by flattering them or telling them lies
martlet Heraldry a small, swallow-like bird with tufts of feathers in place of legs and feet
mazel tov a Jewish expression used to congratulate someone or wish them good luck
meacock a coward or effeminate person
merkin an artificial covering of hair for the pubic area
merrythought a bird’s wishbone
mim Scottish modest or demure in an affected or priggish way
mimsy rather feeble and prim or over-restrained (coined by Lewis Carroll in Through the Looking Glass)
minacious menacing or threatening
minibeast Brit. informal a small invertebrate animal such as an insect or spider
misogamy the hatred of marriage
mistigris a joker or other extra card played as a wild card in some versions of poker
mixologist N. Amer. informal a person who is skilled at mixing cocktails and other drinks
mollitious luxurious or sensuous
momism excessive attachment to or domination by one’s mother
monkey’s wedding S. African simultaneous rain and sunshine
monorchid having only one testicle
moonraker a native of the county of Wiltshire
mouse potato a person who spends large amounts of their leisure or working time on a computer
mudlark a person who scavenges in riverside mud at low tide for anything of value
muktuk the skin and blubber of a whale, eaten by the Inuit people
mumpsimus a traditional custom or notion that is adhered to although it has been shown to be unreasonable
nacarat a bright orange-red colour
nagware computer software which is free for a trial period and thereafter frequently reminds the user to pay for it
nainsook a fine, soft cotton fabric, originally made in the Indian subcontinent
natation swimming
nesh Brit. dialect weak, delicate, or feeble
netizen a habitual or keen user of the Internet
noctambulist a sleepwalker
noyade an execution carried out by drowning
nugacity triviality or frivolity
nympholepsy passion or rapture aroused in men by beautiful young girls
obnubilate to darken, dim, or obscure something
ogdoad a group or set of eight
omophagy the eating of raw food, especially meat
omphalos the centre or hub of something
onolatry the worship of donkeys or asses
o-o an endangered Hawaiian bird, a species of honeyeater
operose involving or displaying a lot of effort
opsimath a person who begins to learn or study late in life
orectic having to do with desire or appetite
orrery a clockwork model of the solar system, or the sun, earth, and moon
ortanique a cross between an orange and a tangerine
otalgia earache
oxter Scottish & N. English a person’s armpit
paludal living or occurring in a marshy habitat
Pantagruelian enormous
panurgic able or ready to do anything
parapente an aerofoil parachute, used for gliding
paraph a flourish after a signature
patulous (of the boughs of a tree, for example) spreading
pavonine to do with or resembling a peacock
pedicular to do with lice
peely-wally Scottish looking pale and unwell
peever Scottish hopscotch
periapt an item worn as a charm or amulet
petcock a small valve in a steam engine or boiler, used for drainage or for reducing pressure
peterman a person who breaks open and robs safes
pettitoes pig’s trotters, especially as food
piacular making or requiring atonement
pilgarlic a bald-headed man, or a person regarded with mild contempt
pinguid resembling fat; oily or greasy
piscatorial connected with fishermen or fishing
pleurodynia severe pain in the muscles between the ribs or in the diaphragm
plew a beaver skin
pneumonoul­tramicrosc­opicsilico­volcanocon­iosis an invented term said to mean ‘a lung disease caused by inhaling very fine ash and sand dust’, but rarely used except for its curiosity value
pogey Canadian informal unemployment or welfare benefit
pollex Anatomy the thumb
pooter a suction bottle for collecting insects and other small invertebrates
portolan a book containing sailing directions with hand-drawn charts and descriptions of harbours and coasts
posology the branch of medicine concerned with the size and frequency of doses of a medicine or a drug
possident a possessor, i.e. a person who owns something
pother a commotion or fuss
pre-loved second-hand
presenteeism the compulsion to spend longer at work than is required or to continue working despite illness
previse to foresee or predict an event
probang a strip of flexible material with a sponge or tuft at the end, used to remove a foreign body from the throat or to apply medication to it
prosopagnosia an inability to recognize the faces of familiar people, typically as a result of brain damage
puddle jumper a small, light aircraft which is fast and highly manoeuvrable and used for short trips
puddysticks S. African children’s word very easy
pyknic a technical description of a stocky physique with a rounded body and head, thickset trunk, and a tendency to fat
pyroclastic relating to fragments of rock erupted by a volcano
ragtop a convertible car with a soft roof
ratite (of a bird such as the ostrich or emu) unable to fly because of having a flat breastbone, to which no flight muscles are attached
rawky foggy, damp, and cold
razzia a raid carried out by Moors in North Africa
rebirthing a form of therapy involving controlled breathing and intended to simulate the trauma of being born
resurrection man a person who, in past times, illicitly exhumed corpses from burial grounds and sold them to anatomists for dissection
retiform resembling a net
rhinoplasty plastic surgery performed on the nose
rubiginous rust-coloured
rubricate to add elaborate capital letters (typically red ones) or other decorations to a manuscript
rude boy Jamaican a lawless or rebellious unemployed urban youth who likes ska or reggae music
rug rat N. Amer. a child
rumpot N. Amer. a habitual or heavy drinker
sangoma a traditional healer or witch doctor in southern Africa
sarmie S. African informal a sandwich
saucier a sauce chef
saudade a feeling of longing or melancholy that is supposedly characteristic of the Portuguese or Brazilian temperament
scofflaw a person who flouts the law
screenager a person in their teens or twenties who has an aptitude for using computers and the Internet
scrippage one’s baggage and personal belongings
selkie Scottish a mythical sea creature like a seal in water but human on land
serac a pinnacle or ridge of ice on the surface of a glacier
sesquipedalian (of a word) having many syllables or (of a piece of writing) using many long words
shallop a light sailing boat used chiefly for coastal fishing
shamal a hot, dry north-westerly wind that blows across the Persian Gulf in summer and causes sandstorms
shavetail US military slang a newly commissioned officer, or any inexperienced person
shippon Brit. dialect a cattle shed
shofar a ram’s-horn trumpet used in Jewish religious ceremonies and, in ancient times, to sound a battle signal
skanky N. Amer. informal revolting
skelf Scottish a splinter or sliver of wood
skimmington a kind of procession once undertaken to make an example of a nagging wife or an unfaithful husband
skycap a porter at an airport
snakebitten N. Amer. informal unlucky or doomed to misfortune
snollygoster a shrewd or unprincipled person
sockdolager US informal a heavy blow
solander a protective box made in the form of a book, for holding items such as botanical specimens, maps, and colour plates
soucouyant a kind of witch, in eastern Caribbean folklore, who is believed to shed her skin by night and suck the blood of her victims
soul case N. Amer. & W. Indian the human body
soul catcher a hollowed bone tube used by a North American Indian medicine man to keep a sick person’s soul safe while they are sick
spaghettification the process by which (in some theories) an object would be stretched and ripped apart by gravitational forces on falling into a black hole
spitchcock an eel, split and then grilled or fried
splanchnic having to do with the the viscera or internal organs, especially those of the abdomen
spurrier a person who makes spurs
stercoraceous consisting of or resembling dung or faeces
sternutator something that causes sneezing
stiction the frictional force which hinders an object from being moved while in contact with another
strappado a punishment or torture in which the victim was hoisted in the air on a rope and then allowed to fall almost to the ground before being stopped with an abrupt jerk
strigil an instrument with a curved blade used by ancient Greeks and Romans to scrape sweat and dirt from the skin in a hot-air bath or after exercise
struthious having to do with or resembling an ostrich
studmuffin N. Amer. humorous a sexually attractive, muscular man
stylite a early Christian ascetic who lived standing on top of a pillar
subfusc the dark formal clothing worn for examinations and ceremonial or formal occasions at some universities.
submontane passing under or through mountains, or situated on the lower slopes of a mountain range
succuss to shake something vigorously, especially a homeopathic remedy
sudd an area of floating vegetation that impedes navigation in a stretch of the White Nile
suedehead a youth like a skinhead but with slightly longer hair and smarter clothes
sun-grazing (of a comet) having an orbit which passes close to the sun
superbious proud and overbearing
superette N. Amer. a small supermarket
taniwha a mythical monster which, according to Maori legend, lives in very deep water
tappen the plug by which the rectum of a bear is closed during hibernation
tellurian of or inhabiting the earth, or an inhabitant of the earth
testudo a device used in siege warfare in ancient Rome, consisting of a wheeled screen with an arched roof (literally a ‘tortoise’)
thalassic relating to the sea
thaumatrope a scientific toy devised in the 19th century. It consisted of a disc with a different picture on each of its two sides: when the disc was rotated rapidly about a diameter, these pictures appeared to combine into one image.
thirstland S. African a desert or large arid area
thrutch N. English a narrow gorge or ravine
thurifer a person carrying a censer, or thurible, of burning incense during religious ceremonies
tiffin chiefly Indian a light meal, especially lunch
tigon the hybrid off spring of a male tiger and a lioness (the offspring of a male lion and a tigress being a liger)
tokoloshe in African folklore, a mischievous and lascivious hairy water sprite
toplofty N. Amer. informal haughty and arrogant
transpicuous transparent
triskaidekaphobia extreme superstition about the number thirteen
triskelion a Celtic symbol consisting of three radiating legs or curved lines, such as the emblem of the Isle of Man
tsantsa a human head shrunk as a war trophy by the Jivaro people of Ecuador
turbary the legal right to cut turf or peat for fuel on common ground or on another person’s ground
ulu a short-handled knife with a broad crescent-shaped blade, used by Inuit women.
umbriferous shady
uncinate (of a part of the body) having a hooked shape
uniped a person or animal with only one foot or leg
uroboros a circular symbol depicting a snake (or a dragon) swallowing its tail, intended as an emblem of wholeness or infinity
ustad Indian an expert or highly skilled person, especially a musician
vagarious erratic and unpredictable in behaviour or direction
velleity a wish or inclination which is not strong enough to lead one to take action
verjuice a sour juice obtained from crab apples or unripe grapes
vicinal neighbouring or adjacent
vidiot N. Amer. informal a habitual, undiscriminating watcher of television or videotapes
vomitous N. Amer. nauseating or repulsive
wabbit Scottish exhausted or slightly unwell
waitron N. Amer. a waiter or waitress
wakeboarding the sport of riding on a short, wide board while being towed behind a motor boat
wayzgoose an annual summer party and outing that used to be held by a printing house for all its employees
winebibber a heavy drinker
wish book N. Amer. informal a mail-order catalogue
wittol a man who knows of and tolerates his wife’s infidelity
woopie an affluent retired person able to pursue an active lifestyle (from the initials of well-off older person)
wowser chiefly Austral./NZ a puritanical, prudish person or a killjoy
xenology the scientific study of extraterrestrial phenomena
ylem (in big bang theory) the primordial matter of the universe
zetetic proceeding by inquiry or investigation
zoolatry the worship of animals
zopissa a medicinal preparation made from wax and pitch scraped from the sides of ships
zorro a South American kind of fox
Zyrian a former term for Komi, a language spoken in an area of Russia west of the Urals; at present the last entry in the Oxford English Dictionary