Check out 14 March 2022 Monday chat https://www.twitch.tv/videos/1425549698
Hello to you. How are you today? I’m a little slow today. It’s amazing how much just one hour can screw you up lol! Most people I talk to agree it would be ok if we did away with the daylight savings.
Todays message from A Woman’s Spirit was about how important it is to value your own significance. By valuing your own significance you are more able to value the significance of others. When people are caretaker types or and have low self esteem or are damaged by life they don’t realize their own value. They always put others wants, needs and value before their own. I was like this and wasn’t checking my motives about it……I got resentful! Resentment is the seed oftentimes for addictive behaviors. In addition to trying to get sleep, I used to drink to deal with my feelings. I wanted to be numb. Distractions of this world are used to lose ourselves too. If I’m doing a distracting thing I don’t have to think about anything else – I can avoid myself!
Right now I am having time to get to know myself. I am still not feeling suited to be somebody’s significant other! The void in me that was created by the divorce is being filled with getting to know myself better and getting closer to God.
A Woman’s Spirit Message for today:
Before I can become a significant other, I must become significant to myself. – Kelley Vickstrom
Why is it so hard to feel as if we matter? Putting other people’s wishes and needs before our own may seem natural. We may feel shame when we say no. As girls, we may have watched our mothers and grandmothers tending to the whims of everyone else. Probably without ever being told, we simply followed suit. What’s worse , we may not have even expected appreciation for our actions.
Now that we are learning to think of ourselves we feel a bit selfish. However , we must begin to honor our significance, and we have to understand that to do so is not egotistical. In order to lovingly appreciate others in our lives, to treat them as significant, we have to value our own significance. Our Higher Power considers us significant; it’s time we followed suit.
Affirming my own significance will help me appreciate other people. Today I will value my interactions with others.
This scene from one of my favorite films and books speaks volumes. In this scene multigenerational trauma, how we pass the good and bad through multiple generations is spoken:
https://youtu.be/tJzxpUkJYXo – Joy Luck Club you don’t know how much your worth
“No, this cannot be, this not knowing what you’re worth, this not begin with you. My mother not know her worth until too late – too late for her, but not for me.”
3 thoughts on “14 March 2022 You Are Significant”
Reblogged this on Zero Lift-Off and commented:
Hello and hope you’re having a very nice day; seems like you should for sure!
This is a very straightforward and a very realistic outlook about moving forward and upward!
Here is immediately what stood out as a great self-revelation that’s really so important to see.
“The void in me that was created by the divorce is being filled with getting to know myself better and getting closer to God.”
The part about getting closer to God as I see it can only be the best thing to do, for not just you as you explained your situation very well, but anyone that is genuflecting deeply looking for that clear and totally honest assessment of where we are coming from, and most important where we need to get to! Yes even in the short term of dealing with this life, but, then where we really want to be for eternity; because I do believe this is where we get to choose that final destination by how we live and ultimately seek God as our truth; the only real answer to it all.
But then the first thing in that statement about a void, that got me thinking about actually something that just came into my view today, early this morning when waking, which I never thought about! A bit of truth and some information I had decades ago, but didn’t appreciate well enough and see it for what it was, like not seeing the forest for the trees perhaps because I was being too sure of myself or just foolish thinking I knew so much but knew squat! And then fast forward I wonder and ask myself did I blow it, and all I had to do was use that information to take a step in a direction that would have landed me right where I as a teen thought I wanted to go which would have required me depending on someone else’s connections which I actually fought all my life not wanting anyone’s favors; to not be beholding; so instead I did try to go in that direction only did it completely without that advantage or actually any connection, and it all ended up being a dead-end or disappointment as I saw it then; or I got perhaps disillusioned and feared the unknown possibilities, so I let it go and changed direction.
Now the kicker is here I am a very mature much older and hopefully wiser man, who for a moment I still just have to wonder did I handle things poorly when I thought I tried hard to do what I dreamed of doing in my own way; but that was a mistake? So what I’m saying is anyone can look back and see in retrospect how one thing or another could have been done just a bit differently or even a golden opportunity being handed to get the leg up needed and perhaps that would have made things so much better or successful! Whether a marriage or a career choice it maybe would have gone very well, but, that one big glitch blew it all up! You know how in some deep love relationships it happens sometimes where one or the other might do a very foolish thing and cheat, in a time of weakness and totally ruin the marriage when the one cheating really had no intention of hurting the person that they made that forever promise to, yet it got botched up because we are human and make Mistakes; we all do!
My father told me as a teen; “son we all make mistakes but what God expects us to do is admit it when we do, and learn from it so that you never do that again, and that way prove you are truly sorry! Now I know it’s too late for me to do anything about that choice I made and the opportunity I maybe could have gotten to flourish in a certain way is long gone, and I don’t want to have regrets at all, because I do believe another thing my father told me many years later after making a few big choices that landed me right back where I started; he said, looking me straight in the eyes, “right here where you are this moment is where God wanted you to be!” So my father with more wisdom and insight, as well as knowing me better than I know myself was I think saying, “don’t second guess now, because you made some big decisions and ended up right here for good reason; this is the life you should be living this moment and not the possible celebrity one you “maybe” could have had, if you took those steps in another direction way back then.” Then I recall in that conversation I said, well I just wonder because now I can see how if I did this or that being so full of imagination and energy at the time I probably would have gone to the top and I just wonder! He looked deep into my eyes how he always did when talking so father and son, and said, “you could be dead too!” I just shook thinking and writing that, because, he was absolutely right, so maybe yea I ended up deciding what I did and going the opposite direction from where I had thought I should head into! But because it would have led to any number of potential troubles or heartaches even an early departure from life, or in the least a pile of problems and hassles that would drive me to drink or even give up; I’ve seen that happen to some dudes who took big leaps and later crashed and burned, many of them were famous or very successful in the business for a time, but then; Shit Happens!
God I love this article you wrote it makes me tear up right so much thinking about it all now in this way; because as much as I can second guess or imagine myself doing something quite different in my life over all these years and how cool or fun it could have been, there is always that double edged sword involved when getting so much all at once, how that can be and many times is be too much to handle, which in turn will cause tragedy to strike; we see it in great stories and many famous families like the Kennedy’s and so many others. The truth is dad is absolutely spot-on and so wise, because who gives a care what the frig I could of done; that whole thing of coulda, woulda, shoulda malarkey might get one thinking, but doesn’t God know what is really going to be my best end result, and not all these imaginations or second guessing that I or anyone can do, especially when thinking about voids in life; “when in the end, if we Trust God” the best possible outcome will arrive and “it will be forever!” Right now I should be more concerned about being just a servant, an instrument for Him alone; just serving Him better and better; while like you said getting to know Him better will make it alright!
God bless you!
Thanks for bringing this out today when it matched up so clearly with my sudden thinking/emotional process I was going through wondering!
Brother in Christ Jesus,
Lawrence Morra III
You are welcome Lawrence! Thank you for sharing what it meant to you – insights you gained. Thanks for the reblog ! I don’t think I’ve ever had a fellow blogger reblog my posts two days in a row! I always hope a message is for more than just myself! 😁 Sending you a hug and we’ll wishes!
You’re welcome on all points you bought up here! Thing is I wasn’t planning anything or didn’t have any preconceived notion that I would be looking to even comment on your newer posting since yesterday let alone reblog one, but here is what I wrote in one of my very last comments yesterday to your blog!
“I do look forward to touching base more about this and similar concerns and who knows we could make some difference that we didn’t think possible or realize!”
Looks like some making a difference already is happening perhaps! Going back to what you said in this comment it really makes total sense!
And I had posted this comment quoting you from your blog article yesterday just prior to making that comment I just listed above.
You are so absolutely correct in saying “Gods calling for us to try and help those struggling to be conscious, mindful, compassionate contributors to our shared world.”
I will say that I have many things happen like this all of the time just because I know when I sincerely try to serve God I do show that I want to walk with Jesus I’m getting some Love Taps, incentives to not stop thinking and trying that way! I hope I’m getting better at it!
Perhaps when you get a chance and read these two previous postings you will see what I mean for sure!
With God all things are made possible!
“Then Jesus said to His disciples, “Assuredly, I say to you that it is hard for a rich man to enter the kingdom of heaven. 24 And again I say to you, it is easier for a camel to go through the eye of a needle than for a rich man to enter the kingdom of God.”
25 When His disciples heard it, they were greatly astonished, saying, “Who then can be saved?”
26 But Jesus looked at them and said to them, “With men this is impossible, but with God all things are possible.” Matthew 19:23-26
Glad you got some positive reinforcement from this! Amen.