Hello to you. How are you doing today? I’m doing ok. If I’m honest, I woke up missing my husband and my dog Spot but I know this is a temporary condition. We will be together again soon. I also woke up remembering it’s Mother’s Day and started thinking about what that means to me.
There are many different kinds of Mom’s in todays world. In our modern world the title of Mom has extended beyond sex and, sexual orientation. When I was at JPS, there were many male nurses who filled a maternal role for me while I was there. One of them even had the same name as my husband and the other my brother-in-law!
For me, Mom or Mother is not just a title for a woman. For me it is also about what someone does for another person or being. For example, many pet owners like myself consider ourselves pet parents. I consider myself a Mom to Link and Spot. Sometimes not a very good one but I try! We don’t always speak the same language!
The people I consider Mom’s in my life are those people that just have a knack for knowing what to say, what to do, how to talk to me in any given situation. They have an natural instinct for nurturing and helping in matters of the heart.
People like my Dad, my husband, my stepmom, mother and father-in-laws and my Aunt all have at one time or another taken on the role of Mom for me. Their love and care for me has in most cases been nearly unconditional. They mean so much to me!
I have to be honest and say in many ways even my girl Spot has even been more like a mother to me than me to her! I call her my dog ma lol. She has been a Mother dog figure to Link in ways I could not.
I keep thinking at my age I shouldn’t need a Mom like I used to but I do. The question is do we ever stop needing our Mom’s whatever shape, form, and relationship they come in? It doesn’t seem like it for me!
What does still needing a Mom figure say about me? Am I immature or is it an indicator that I am still growing? Does this mean I’m still teachable? Does this mean I am still a person who doesn’t have all the answers? Does this mean I still need the loving wisdom beyond myself to keep me grounded in this world? I think the answer to all of these is yes.
“Mother” in the English Ordinal system equals 79 (rotate, words, lifetime, affection, listen, remember, watches, super, loving, singing, life of a bard)
“a Mom” in the English Ordinal system equals 42 (this is neat because 42 also means self)