Good morning to you. It’s 7:46 am as I begin to write to you on this gray and overcast Tuesday…missing that sunshine! How are you? I hope you are doing well.
Yesterday we were going to go and see Thor: Ragnarok (https://www.rottentomatoes.com/m/thor_ragnarok_2017) at the AMC Theater in Burleson where we normally go to see movies. This particular Theater has started using the assigned seating system and we hate it! We bought tickets and admittingly sat in the wrong seats. It was a matinee and there were a lot of empty seats so we didn’t see a problem. A couple came in and apparently we were in their seats, so we moved. No problem. The opening credits started which included a war film starring Chris Hemsworth we were irritated to see a trailer for. We don’t like the reality war film genre at all…..makes sense when you don’t like war as much as we do. Anyways. Some more people came in and once again, we were in the wrong seat. We moved to what would be our seats but big surprise….people were sitting in them! Rather than ask those people to move like everyone had done to us, we just sat down in available seats nearby. Then Kyle, acting totally out of character for Kyle, was very angry and decided he just wanted to leave…get a refund. So we went to the poor man who had sold us the tickets. Kyle actually had beads of sweat on his forehead so I knew he was really mad and it was taking a lot to hold himself back from making a scene with the poor person who wasn’t responsible for a dysfunctional theater system. So I made sure to let the young man know we realized it wasn’t his fault the theater was being run in such a manner and explained why we wanted the refund. There was no way to make a complaint in the theater so Kyle did that when we got home. We probably won’t be going back to that particular theater as long as they continue with assigned seating. We could understand such a system for a premiere showing or a weekend….not a matinee. We really miss just being able to buy a ticket and find an available seat!
So I had a dream last night that was so vivid and wonderful I got out of bed at 1:54 am to write it down! I know the keys that unlocked this particular dream were my thinking and talking about the Distant Worlds concert Kyle and I saw together and reading poetry out loud, poorly in some instances as some of the words in the older poems are tricky, before bed.
I dreamt about reading stories written by children with disabilities like ADD/Autism at a benefit. I was reading as if I were the child with all the nuances of the way the child talked. The text I was reading was so vivid I actually remembered a couple of words from it and those were “hinged” and “hingeless.” These were used in the context of describing a person not a door. It wasn’t “me” reading in the dream. It was a young woman with a gentle soft face, brown curly hair and blue eyes. I remember someone saying thank you to her before I woke up.
The woman looked kind of like the character Darlene, actress Sara Gilbert, from the television sitcom Roseanne. As Kyle said to me after I told him the dream, “It probably was her, it’s who you cast for the role.” I guess the people who appear in our dreams could be like actors eh?
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sara_Gilbert – in case you don’t know who Sara is
Anyhew….I loved that I remembered actual words from the dream and decided to see where they would lead me. Well I was lead to a bunch of pictures of people wearing glasses and the two articles I’m sharing that correlate quite well to what it means to be a “hingeless person.”
Being actively in the dream world is the epitome of being a hingeless person! I prefer that sort of definition to the one where a person can come completely unhinged and subsequently say and do very bad things! That correlates nicely to what happened with Kyle and I and our recent theater experience right?! Sometimes you need an extra set of hinges lol.
Time to close and get on with the day. I hope there is something for you here in all of this!
http://thechristianpulse.com/2015/04/18/a-door-without-hinges/ – this was the first article I found when looking for anything about what it might mean to be a hingeless person. I don’t agree with everything Marty writes here, but there are parts that really resonated with me and I’ve “bolded” those aspects. For those who are not Christians, this piece comes from that direction – just a heads up in case you walk a different path.
A Door Without Hinges
By Marty Norman
A door is an interesting thing. Everyone has them, everyone uses them. A working definition, for purposes of this article is: an opening that allows a body to move between two places quickly.
Recently my granddaughter Lily stayed at our house for a week. She is into Webkinz, so our first activity was to go to Target and buy Hopkins the Elephant, and Hippie the Hippopotamus. Next we got online to “adopt” these animals and give them a name.
The Webkinz site is a clever one. Once signed in, each pet owner has his/her own house. Each new pet is given a room of their own in the house. Then the owner carefully picks out furniture, beds, room colors, and favorite objects customized for them to enjoy. Each “adoptee” can travel from room to room to visit the other “adoptees”. However, to get from one room to the next they must stand in a doorway. With the click of a mouse they then move effortlessly from room to room.
In this fantasy world, doors are the key. Only by going through the door can one advance forward.
In the spiritual world, doors are also the key. But the spiritual world is not fantasy. Jesus tells us in Revelation 3:20, “I stand at the door and knock. If anyone hears my voice and opens the door, I will come in and eat with him, and he with me.” (NIV)
Another door – but one of greater importance – for this door leads to salvation, eternity, and to a personal relationship with the Savior. But this door is also an opening that allows our flesh and spirit to move quickly between two worlds, the spiritual and the physical.
I once read a meditation by my friend Cathy that described a door as having three hinges – a great description for physical and spiritual doors. It takes three hinges to hold a physical door in place. In the same way, in the spiritual realm, the three hinges are the Trinity, the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit, staples that hold a person in place, keep us on the mark, and help us advance to the next room.
But what happens to the door that has no hinges, the person who has no spiritual foundation?
Here are some characteristics of a hinge-less door.
First of all, a hinge-less door cannot be opened – no way, no how, without the ability to open and close, the door falls to the ground. There is no anchor, no connection to a foundation. A hinge-less person also has no anchor. With the slightest wind they fall for there is nothing holding them up.
A hinge-less door is also rocky. You never know when it will collapse. And when it falls, it damages that which it falls upon. The same with the anchorless person. Unaware of consequences they fall every which way, often damaging those with whom they come in contact.
A hinge-less door is unusable. It serves no purpose. The same with the anchorless person. How can they be used if they are not in step with God’s will and purpose? God uses those who stay close and in contact with him to love, heal, and bless his people.
A hinge-less door is out of control. There is no stability that orders its way. Without a Father who loves, a Savior who redeems, and a Holy Spirit that leads and guides, the anchorless person is without form or stability.
So hinges are a necessary part of the moving forward process. As believers of the “The Way”, it is up to us to carry extra hinges wherever we go, for we never know when we might be needed to stabilize a wobbly door. By introducing the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit to others, by helping to anchor hinge-less doors to the God of heaven, we will be helping the hinge-less attach to the firm foundation of life.
A Webkinz I am not, but anyone can be a carpenter that works with the Savior. Now that is a door I can stay connected to – and with just a click of the mouse! How convenient is that?
Marty Norman is a wife, mother, and grandmother of five, who lives in Fort Worth, Texas. She is the author of “Generation G – Advice for Savvy Grandmothers Who Will Never Go Gray.” You can learn more about her at: www.martynorman.com, http://martynorman.blogspot.com, http://savvygrandmothers.blogspot.com.
https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-second-noble-truth/201301/your-dream-world – this piece stuck out at me because I am more actively paying attention to my dreams again. I have realized for myself and mentioned it many times in my blogs that our personal perception of the world is a key factor to the life we live. A key element to the life we share with other human beings and life forms on this planet. Just because you perceive a person, place, thing or situation a certain way doesn’t make you “right.” It is only your perception, which may be completely different from another. It doesn’t make you “wrong” either…just “different.” We need different to help us navigate this life. I think if we rely only on our own perception of everything, we could be living in a lot of untruths of what reality truly is.
Your Dream World
Don’t go through life unaware you are projecting the inner world onto the outer.
Posted Jan 06, 2013
Photo by Alexi Berry
This article isn’t about dream interpretation, though the analogy is apt. The post is about how projection, which is a staple in dreaming, occurs in waking life and affects what you see. It is about no longer walking through life in a dream like state and taking the time to delve inside of yourself, to interpret your life.
In Gestalt dream analysis, everything in the dream is you. Other theories, though not outright stating everything in the dream is subjective, recognize that projection is apparent. After all it is your mind creating the images, not an actual person invading your dream. Your unconscious projects an image. The real meaning of the image lies within you, not outside in another.
Dream interpretation is very interesting and can provide clues to the unconscious. The purpose of this post is to discuss how the waking hours can do the same. There are aspects of reality we all agree upon: the weather; who won which bowl game; there is little about these aspects of reality anyone will argue. There is a great deal of room in daily interactions and activities, however, for one to have their own truth, their own perception of reality. In fact, it could be contended that the vast majority of occurrences in a day have a large element of projection.
Projection is when an individual attributes something within him or herself onto another. Basically, you see what you are. This is not new; there are numerous quotes that impart this meaning: Anaïs Nin stated, “We don’t see things as they are, we see them as we are.” Henry David Thoreau proclaimed, “It’s not what you look at that matters, it’s what you see.” Carl Jung said, “Your vision will become clear only when you can look into your own heart. Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes.” These quotes, and likely many others, point to the theory that humans project their unconscious onto others. Simply, what one finds in the world is a reflection of one’s unconscious.
The idea that one is projecting much of what he or she perceives maybe difficult to accept. People rely on their thinking beyond reproach. This is understandable; one has more access to his or her thoughts than any other material. One’s thinking has likely served him well. The thought of not relying on thinking could be terrifying. However, the alternative is to walk through a dream world never interpreted.
In previous posts I have touched on the theme of subjective reality. One of my more popular posts is, “The Truth Will Not Set You Free.” The suggestion is similar here: question thinking. Evaluate it. Step outside of thought, look at it objectively and with an inquisitive mind, and evaluate it. Could all of these learned and insightful people, some of whom developed theories around projection, others who use the theories to assist others to increase happiness, have been wrong? Isn’t it possible or perhaps likely that what one sees is affected by their unconscious, by their experience, by their history? As such, how is projection affecting your vision?
To approach this differently, it is not being suggested that one simply cease having confidence in every thought and question everything. Nothing would get done. Automatic thinking serves the human race well. It helps discern between dangerous and benign situations. It allows for much more productivity. It eases living immensely. To be without it would be to become infantile.
Always functioning and trusting thinking, nevertheless, has its costs. Often one is not completely present in interactions, as the mind, the ego, is determining the next move. This might be what to say or considering what is next on the agenda. By not being completely present, and by allowing automatic thinking to operate unquestioned, one does not perceive reality accurately. Prior experience taints the present. One may not be able to see past their impression. Opportunities may be missed. Negativity focused on rather than positivity. Potential acquaintances judged and discarded without really knowing who they are. Others allowed into one’s life that one might have been better off without. All because an overused, albeit handy, tool has gone unchecked.
It is not the intention of this post to persuade one to give up on initial impressions or hunches. Often they serve an incredible purpose. In Malcolm Gladwell’s book “Blink”, he does an excellent job of describing how intuition and first impressions can be incredibly positive; while at other times they alter perception in a negative way leading to horrible outcomes. The purpose of this post is simply to encourage the questioning of thought and judgment, especially when it is leading to negative feeling and action. A good beginning would be questioning what we don’t like in another. Carl Jung said, “Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves.” Another time to begin self-evaluation is when you misunderstand someone. It is likely you were projecting your own unconscious into the misunderstanding.
Evaluating oneself can be a daunting task. Days are filled with activity, deadlines, and tasks. Automatic thinking permits a smoother, and more efficient life. Evaluating if you are projecting the unconscious takes time and an open mind. It can be an arduous task to interpret the representations you put on another, or on a situation. Questioning one’s thinking, looking within, peering into the possible ugliness that lies in the unconscious is challenging to say the least. But self-understanding, a potentially less outwardly conflictual existence, and being in the present moment more often are worth it.
Copyright William Berry, 2013
Gladwell, Malcolm; 2005; Blink.