Hello again family. I am here again…writing therapy! I’m trying to sort out the meaning of the words being thrown around a lot right now – Tolerance and Intolerance.
Here is the Merriam Webster’s definition of Tolerance:
Definition of tolerance
1: capacity to endure pain or hardship
:endurance, fortitude, stamina
2a:sympathy or indulgence for beliefs or practices differing from or conflicting with one’s own
b: the act of allowing something
3:the allowable deviation from a standard; especially
: the range of variation permitted in maintaining a specified dimension in machining a piece
4a (1):the capacity of the body to endure or become less responsive to a substance (such as a drug) or a physiological insult especially with repeated use or exposure ; also
:the immunological state marked by unresponsiveness to a specific antigen (2)
:relative capacity of an organism to grow or thrive when subjected to an unfavorable environmental factor
b: the maximum amount of a pesticide residue that may lawfully remain on or in food
Here is there definition of Intolerant:
Definition of intolerant
1: unable or unwilling to endure
2a: unwilling to grant equal freedom of expression especially in religious matters
b: unwilling to grant or share social, political, or professional rights
3: exhibiting physiological intolerance <lactose intolerant>
Examples of intolerant in a sentence
<intolerant of fools, she is not an easy person to work for>
<intolerant people who callously deny others the very rights that they take for granted>
What I’m having trouble with is thinking about where is the line in the sand when it comes to tolerance and intolerance of other peoples actions, morals, values and beliefs. When does tolerance transition into inaction, passiveness, ignoring, wall building, exclusion, alienation….being no better than the people I am convinced are being intolerant? Yesterday one of my family member’s made a post on Facebook that he and several of his friends thought was funny. It was Anti-Semitic in nature. Kyle and I were so offended by it that I unfriended and blocked him for it. There may have been a joke I missed about this post but what I saw I perceived as Anti-Semitic in nature and far from funny! Kyle had warned me about going back to Facebook and he was right. I was on there for less than an hour and I was having this sort of experience!
My Mom suggested I should just Unfollow this person and try to be more tolerant of other people’s beliefs. I don’t think she had seen the post when she said this. She feels, and in some ways I can agree with her, that I can become quite adamant when I set my mind to something. I told her that I am normally a very tolerant person but will never be tolerant of people who think it’s funny to belittle, harm or maim another person for who they are.
Where is the line in the sand and who is qualified to draw it? I say it is Me. To protect my Mind, Body and Spirit I must draw a line as to what I will allow myself to be exposed to from other people whether it’s to my face or electronic media.
I am at present justifying my actions yesterday in this way. We may agree to disagree but here it is……
Facebook and any other Social Media tool I use is an extension of who I am as a person. Would I allow someone to say something derogatory about a walk of life to my face repeatedly and still allow them to spend time with me without saying or doing something about it? At some point wouldn’t it be logical for me to stop spending time with such a person? There is another word for that set of circumstances and that is toxicity. We teach people how to treat us and if we allow people to do the types of things being done on Social Media in tangible circumstances, it’s just like allowing them to do it in our actual presence and it’s toxic to mind, body and spirit.
A phrase my Quantum Touch Teacher and light-worker Carol Lee taught me a few years ago is the barometer I am using for this figurative line, “If it Ain’t Light, it Aint’ Right!” If something someone says, something I see or read makes my heart fall into my stomach or elicits a negative feeling – it ain’t light!
All this said, I still am concerned about being perceived as just as bad as the people I am choosing to exclude from life for their behavior. It brings me back to Tolerance and Intolerance again…a loop! Am I being intolerant? I would say yes. When it comes to the act by others of hating or harming another person in mind, body and or spirit just for who they are — by choice or not I will always be intolerant. I can’t bring myself or my heart Accept such things as a normal way of living.
Tolerance is a dirty word – Andrew Sayer Ted Talks
Another word being thrown around a lot these days also: Bigot
1. a person who is utterly intolerant of any differing creed, belief, or opinion.