Hello again, I wanted to share something special with you as a follow-up to the Missing Child drawing I did this morning! It never ceases to amaze me how the God of my understanding works in my life and this is an example worth sharing!
So I shared the drawing I did from memory of a missing child in a dream I had yesterday afternoon:
Well after I did that post, we took the dogs for a walk and one of my neighbors I seldom get to visit with was out front with her granddaughter Daisy. We exchanged hello’s and were going to continue on home but then Daisy came up to us to see our dogs. Well she and Spot were just fine but her and Link not so much! They just couldn’t figure out how to talk to each other without scaring themselves. Link barked at Daisy and scared her much that so she ran crying back to her Grandma! Well I felt horrible about this and had Kyle take the dogs home and I stayed behind to make sure Daisy was alright.
Well my neighbor and I started to talk and apparently Daisy and her brother have only recently come to live with them. Apparently Daisy wasn’t being very nice to their new puppy and was having problems adjusting. Her Grandma described her as a “wild child.” Well we started talking and in looking at Daisy, I realized something….she bore some resemblance to my drawing from yesterday! I also realized I could be looking at a different version of myself at that age! My early years were pretty dysfunctional and I too have found the most security and unconditional love in the arms and hearts of my Grandparents.
The conversation that followed was pretty powerful stuff. I was able to give my neighbor insight into the mentality of her troubled Granddaughter and was able to give her some ideas as to what might help. For example, I mentioned about my being very sensitive in public and how when I was a little girl I’d act up violently when I didn’t get my way at the grocery story etc. I told her what I came to realize is that I am an Empath or Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) and oftentimes being in public and or crowds can be overwhelming! My body wears itself out trying to adjust to all the various energy signatures of the people I’m trying to interact with and just the pre-existing and ambient energies that exist in every space we occupy. It’s even more difficult now with Wi-Fi devices!
If a child who is an Empath or HSP is faced with the same but cannot escape like adults can, they react or act out to try and control what they don’t understand. They don’t know how to adjust their energy to the people or place and just react to the people or place. Some may just say, and Mom if your reading you had this flicker through, “they are just spoiled and behaving badly.” Yes, this is partially true! In my case definitely lol! A child not taught boundaries or any sort of discipline can learn to behave in ways that are perceived as “spoiled, naughty, rotten, out of control etc.”
Then my neighbor tells me just yesterday that exact scenario played out in our local grocery store when Grandpa took Daisy along! When Grandpa didn’t let her have her way about carrying an 18 count of eggs, Daisy had a huge outburst that ended up with broken eggs and a tantrum!
Now that I’m grown and can look back, I think it’s an energy problem!! Children don’t know their own minds and bodies and act and react to things in the only ways they know how. This resulting behavior can be perceived as bad parenting and poor discipline but I think it’s even more than that. Pay attention!!!
When Daisy was sitting on her Grandma’s lap she felt secure, safe and everything was manageable — even interacting with me a stranger. Not to say children are dogs but it’s the same principle….as even Cesar Millan would say, “it’s about energy.” Her Grandma puts out a very even, secure and safe energy that gives Daisy a sense of order and balance….it’s easy to be with her, she doesn’t have to “do anything.” BUT put this same Daisy in the grocery store with someone she’s not used to spending all her time with — KABOOM! Sensory overload, behavior run amuck!
I went back with my drawing after we spoke and as I looked at my neighbor and Daisy it dawned on me that the child in the drawing was like a fusion of the two people! My neighbor lost her mother a couple of years ago to cancer and has a very difficult time. I wonder if by helping Daisy, by being like a mother, she will heal inside too? I also realized, after I got home, the missing child looked a lot like me!
I hope my sharing this might prove helpful to anyone reading who may have a child like I was, like Daisy or may even still “be” such a child but just haven’t got sorted out yet. I’m up to 48 years now trying to piece it all together!!! Much love and my thanks to all those living and to those who have moved on for helping me be who I am! (Loving me when I could be and act so far from loveable!)
http://hsperson.com/ – very interesting and informative website for those who would like to learn more about what it is like to be a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP)
Is this you?
- Are you easily overwhelmed by such things as bright lights, strong smells, coarse fabrics, or sirens nearby?
- Do you get rattled when you have a lot to do in a short amount of time?
- Do you make a point of avoiding violent movies and TV shows?
- Do you need to withdraw during busy days, into bed or a darkened room or some other place where you can have privacy and relief from the situation?
- Do you make it a high priority to arrange your life to avoid upsetting or overwhelming situations?
- Do you notice or enjoy delicate or fine scents, tastes, sounds, or works of art?
- Do you have a rich and complex inner life?
- When you were a child, did your parents or teachers see you as sensitive or shy?
I got to thinking this video clip was a great example of what happened today with Link and Daisy LOL. The skunk who Bambi, the deer, saw as a flower…..that’s what I saw in Daisy. The interaction between Link, Daisy also made me think of the Deer Animal Energy Stone Mom had sent from their trip to the Black Hills. I guess Link was the boy part of Bambi and I am the Deer in this lol…the peace maker.